Feel fragile on the job

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I am going to leave a second post and I was wondering if certain circumstances at work make you feel fragile. This is in terms of crying on the work place. Do you as people on the Spectrum ever experience this?

No, but i get stressed out alot.

The only advice i can give is that if you feel unlucky at your current job - find a new one that makes you happier, even if it pays less. Happyness > Money.

I have a problem with crying. It is not like it used to be but it comes up every once in a while.

I am completely with you on the crying issue, Summer_Twilight. Once I reach the overload tipping point it's like it's completely out of my control. I never cry when I'm sad, but I can't stop it when I'm frustrated or humiliated. And yes, it happens at work. I got put on the spot at a training seminar yesterday for something everyone else knew but i didn't and came SO CLOSE to losing it. It happened at the end, thank goodness, and I basically just dissociated for 15 minutes and then got the heck out of there and lost it in the middle of Boston Commons. It makes me feel very fragile, too. I don't know how to fix it. I am usually ok once a job becomes so routine that there are no surprises, but the first year or two of a job is just constant self-regulation to make sure I never reach that overwhelmed place. It makes me feel on edge because I don't know if I could face my coworkers after losing control like that. I don't want to be seen as fragile.

I don't know what advice to give you about the job. Sorry if this is sort of a downer of post! I am struggling a lot too, though in my case it's from entering a new job rather than leaving an old one. I was in a very comfortable job, basically the perfect environment for me, for 5 years, but there was no upward mobility and after a while I just needed to be in a place where there was a hope of a raise ever. Happiness > Money but I was struggling to pay rent and part of my happiness is being able to live in a city near people I know. My new job is less ideal but maybe it just needs time. The key for me at least is having enough privacy and autonomy in a job to be able to manage my own environment and feel in control. I don't always get that, though, since I work in a huge hierarchy now. I think I need to have that discussion with my supervisors where I explain that I have Aspergers and that I need some accomodations like being explicitly told if I mess something up (and how/why). Being in the dark is the biggest thing that makes me feel fragile. I always feel like I'm missing something that is obvious to everyone else, and making all of these horrific missteps because of it. I think a work environment would be better if someone could just commit to telling me, calmly and nonjudgmentally, when I mess up.

I hope some of this has some value to you... my heart is with you. good luck.