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I had a job but I have been off work since Dec due to mental health issues and stress. I emailed my supervisor and she was like do think it would be better if I took you off the supply list ( I work in a day care) and when you come back to reapply. Just the thought of that gives me exstream. Its frustrating because I really liked my job but I couldn't handle the supply part of it the lack of routine having to work multiple hours each day and different hours each week. Maybe I should look for another job or just leave this for now and re apply when I am doing better. I don't know its just stressful.

Alas, in an economy whose basis is money, one has to find ways to earn it (I don't mean to employ that you're not finding ways to earn it--it's just a fact, alas!).

I worked in a daycare once. I had some rocky times--I made some social mistakes--but I persevered. It was a very rewarding time for me. This was long ago: 1980.

It's hard being someone on the Spectrum. I'm definitely on it--and I suffer because of it. One has to find one's way, though, especially if one is cognitively able.

Please don't give up on your pursuit of your dreams.

I am trying not to but its more complicated than it looks. I have to get a doctors letter to say I am ok to go back to work and I'm not sure if that will happen.

When you say the day care wants you to work multiple hours each day, is that a split shift? If so, that's generally a difficult situation.

No it's supply like a substitute teacher in a school. One week I could be working 40 hours the next week 15, Some days I work 10 hour sifts other days I work 3 hour shifts. Some days I work split shifts at two different locations. I work with multiple ages one day infants the next day after school kids. Sometimes I am a rotator and am in multiple classrooms and age groups in one day.

All this seems really stressful.  I mean, it makes it hard for any person to get into a rhythm, whether spectrum or not.  And then, I'm assuming you may be working with a lot of new kids pretty much all the time?

Now, even with all this, you still want to assume success and plan for success.  There's my method of 0,1,2,3 writing and under-writing, which also helps to build my skills.

That is, I don't get bogged down with a long writing session.  I might be studying geology or art history or something else I find interesting, and on a piece of paper to the side I might write one, two, or three things, or zero things and that's okay, too.  It's more a zen art of allowing something to happen rather than trying to force something to happen.  And these things might be something I want to try in the future, or something I wish would have worked out differently.

So, if it feels right, you might tell them you're going to come back as soon as you get the doctor's okay?

I mean, assume success throughout even though there are some steps involved.  And a good way to talk to your supervisor is an email with a follow up phone call the next day, but it's not the only good way.

And maybe some limits.  For example, maybe at first not more than 30 hours a week when you first go back.  And then, when you get back in the swing of it, back up to 40 a week, but still hard with this variable schedule.

I talk to my doctor on Monday I will see what she thinks.

I'm glad you have an appointment with your doctor in the near future.

And the part with writing, I find it helpful and that's why I talk about it from time to time. But I do realize it's not everyone's cup of tea and probably needs experiments of various sorts in any case.

Ok got an email back from work looks like I can still go on sick leave so that may be ok. Talk to doc Monday see if she has any ideas.