Hierarchy?

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Hello, thanks for taking the time to read this. This has been on my mind for a while since I have been working at my job as a waitstaff for a year. I never got to try hosting and I only asked a couple times. I never even got a ?star?. I have been working so hard. The best thing I got is a good evaluation and a couple comment cards about my service and how great I am. I?m not neurotypical compared to the rest and it really bothers me. I feel like theres this clicky hierarchy where they pick the most popular and most liked person to be considered a ?best employee? which obviously does not mean much. I think because I made too much sense and I actually know what I am doing, I happened to be ignored of opportunities to be higher up on the chain. I should be a host and I deserve anything remotely supervisor like. I am actually conscious of the job unlike neurotypicals who are so f*****g ungrateful for the job they have. I get it, it?s a part time job that is temporary for you. Well I am grateful I have decent income as a college student and there are ups and downs about my job like any other. I have friends there too. I?m friendly and talk to pretty much everyone. I swear no one believes I actually know what I am doing. This hierarchy I am sensing is a bunch of bulls**t. Any thoughts? If I sound remotely self conceited, I have a hard time helping it. I have felt let down a lot before.

Being genuinely well-liked by the person who makes those decisions is definitely more likely to get you where you want.

Start there.

That is true, but I do impressive things all the time and ask for challenging sections.

Hierarchy within some companies is complete BS. From my experience working, being promoted and/or recognized isn't only about hard work. Some companies want employees to be a brown nose to upper management but that's usually an unwritten rule.

Especially in a restaurant, for some reason being good at your job is both great and limiting at the same time. Most people who succeed can both deliver and brown nose. So it's a tough challenge for us.

I can relate to what you say about not getting the recognition that you have earned, but feeling angry about it will put obstacles in your path to getting recognition. People will pick up on your feelings even if you don't say you feel mad, and if you say something it will probably make things worse. If you do a great job as a server, then you should have happy customers and get great tips, so start by focusing on feeling happy about those things. Once you feel calm about the situation, think about ways to make sure your good work gets noticed.

How's your communication with the kitchen? Do the cooks appreciate you? If you can do little things to make their lives easier, they'll probably reciprocate. I certainly did when I worked back of house.

Thanks for your responses and now work is starting to be more faithful to me. I asked to host and since we have different venues in the same place which are buffet, dining hall, and bistro. Buffet is the easiest one to do hosting and they are starting me out there. Every now and then I kept asking about hosting and now one of the managers finally spoke to me privately and did tell me their concern was how I would get overwhelmed but they are willing to give me a chance. I did tell them I can do anything even if it involves getting overwhelmed, I want to show I can be a leader. To answer the questions you guys asked, the impressive things I do are providing great service for the most part. The majority of customers have been happy with me. I never have been written up and I have been very professional lately. I communicate with the hosts and managers when necessary. I get along well with my co workers and for the most part I never had a real problem with them. They ask me for help sometimes and they think I am nice and funny. I bring out the food in sync with the cooks. Now onto my communication with the cooks for that question, I think the cooks do appreciate my efforts and my communication is well. I time for it to be ready when necessary and I have been doing well with that. My manager has no concerns really at this point. It seemed like she did not have a reason to not let me host so obviously she thinks I am capable of trying the next step up.