Dealing with jealousy at work

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About a year and a half ago I started at my current job as a trainee. I'm pretty sure this is an international concept, but just to be sure - this means I had about a year to try all kinds of different things to figure out whether or not a liked the company and what role I'd like.

So I took my time to get to know everybody and earn my place. I'm sure you can all imagine this can be pretty tough now and then, but for some reason people seem to like me and I do my work well enough, so I'm still with the company.

A couple of weeks back a new group of trainees started. And somehow they all seem to blend into the crowd with such ease that, in all honesty, I'm starting to get kinda jealous. I really can't complain (at all) about the way my colleagues treated my back then, but the new group somehow seems to get where I got in a year in a matter of weeks.

It feels really immature, but I'm still kinda wondering if anyone else has run into this problem before. And maybe how you dealt with it...?

Yep, I've been in similar situations a few times. I found that over the years I can almost always find some person or group to be jealous of. So I do my best to just shrug it off and sublimate any frustrations by concentrating on doing whatever it is that I do best.

Sometimes that approach works better than others. Being rather technical and analytical I can often excel in those skills sufficiently to make up for my social shortcomings. But what can really grind my gears is when someone does better than me both socially and technically. I guess I have more of a competitive streak than I give myself credit for.

Thing is, if I think about it, I know it's kinda silly to worry about that stuff. It's more about a... what do you call it in English... gut feeling, I guess. It's hard to shut that off. I'm sure that's the same for everybody though.