Why might they dissaprove of me doing this?

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A year ago my contract with my last job ended (they sussed out that I did not want to work).

Now I am currently unemployed and spend most of my time during the day cycling or walking around town. I go out every Friday and Saturday night I go to my local towns bar (my parents give me money to go out drinking).

Why might some of my associates who are regulars at the bar (or people in general) be disaproving or critical of me going out spending money regurley when they might see me wondering around the my towns high street in casual clothing during the daytime?

I don't understand your post. Maybe I'm tired and am just not reading it correctly.

Are you saying that the bar regulars will see you out in public during the day, and then see you come in the bar at night and then when you come in the bar, they seem to disapprove of you being there? And you think this has something to do with them seeing you out during the day?

IF this is indeed what you're saying, I think you need to provide a little more information, because I can't figure out why this would be a problem for anyone. Again, maybe I'm tired or just don't understand, but I'm at a loss to why anyone would be giving you disapproving signals.

What I was saying was if you see someone wonder around a local community all day being idle and not working and them they always seem to be out spending money at bars in the weekend would you think that was wrong? I mean I go out on the town more than people who have jobs.

They might think you are a drug dealer,or disapprove of getting drunk on other people's money,or they might assume you have your own business and be jealous?

OH...okay, I get it now. Thank you.

I don't think people in a bar would make that kind of judgement about another bar patron. Both of slenkar's points are good ones. If you're literally hanging around a streetcorner or leaning on the side of a building for a long period of time they might think you're a drug dealer. Depending on how you're dressed or what you're doing exactly they might think you're a business person or important in some way. For example, if you are checking your phone a lot, even just to play a video game, another person might think you're doing business on your phone.

I think they would be more likely to judge you for being idle if you were all church goers instead of bar patrons.

Do you think it's possible that they are uncomfortable that YOU saw THEM during the day and then out at the bar at night? Perhaps they are alcoholics and don't want others to know how often they're at the bar? Or maybe they are having an affair and you are seeing them out with people who aren't their spouse and they think you might know that? Maybe one of THESE people is a drug dealer or something else shady?

I'm thinking this because my second best friend is a gay man so I used to hang out at a gay bar with him. During the day I would sometimes see other bar patrons in my neighborhood, but it was clear from their body language that they didn't want me to say hello or admit that I knew them. I think they didn't want to admit that they had been in the gay bar.

They might think you're independently wealthy LOL