Coworkers and Customers think I'm stuck up?

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I get this wherever I work I can't ever get along with a bunch of "normal." People they think I'm pissed off or being stuck up I lost my last job because I was reported by a few customers for not being friendly with them.

I can't find any other jobs outside of public I don't have any sort of degree at the moment.

I think I'm doing fine...I say hi or hello when I'm suppose to I answer customers question I try my hardest to make eye contact even though it makes me very uncomfortable and still not good enough for them.

I probably sound like a baby right now but I'm angry and fustrated that no one seems to get this to get that not everyone is loud and friendly that not everyone is the same.

Not my family gets it either they tell me "Just do it." Sometimes you got to suck it and do it." It's not that hard." How come you can't talk the way to them as you do to me?"

I don't freaking know..

Yes I've been diganosed with Aspergers (and my spelling sucks ) For the passed few years now it's very mild though.

Family says I need to be more friendly or else the coworkers may start to take it the wrong way.

Which they probably have oh well..<_<

I hate that I can't be normal I always cry after work because being around people for 9 plus hours usually leaves me mentally exhausted though I haven't told anyone that yet. probably never will


I like my own company I like to realax and be myself it's hard to be the way everyone elses wants to be at work at least when I'm on my own I can do whatever the hell I please...

Been there, done that. People were even "afraid" of me, and when someone told me, I thought they were joking. It's just the way many of us come across to "neurotypicals."

Try wearing a t-shirt that says something like "I'm too shy to show I'm shy," or "I wish I Could Speak Your Language," or "I wish I had pointy ears like Mr. Spock so you could tell I'm trying to be human," or "Am I being bossy? I thought I was helping."

I wrote a post for "The Art of Autism" blog called "Workplace Tips for Aspies." Maybe you'd find something useful there. I think I'm too junior on this blog to post the link.

Anyhow, you're right to rage about it, but after you calm down, go get 'em.

Forgot one other suggestion: you might try getting a job taking care of animals. They are SO much easier to make happy, and much less tiring to deal with.

You will still have to deal with co-workers, but at least your customers will know you care.