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lidsmichelle
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12 Aug 2016, 4:45 pm

So I have this co-worker who works in another area of the store. Every time he sees me in the break room he talks to me even though I refuse to look at him and give monosyllabic responses. He makes me uncomfortable.

Anyways I had a feeling he has a crush on me which has been confirmed. This also makes me uncomfortable because I don't date coworkers.

And finally, he's telling people I have a Tweety bird tattoo. I don't. I don't know why he's telling people this, unless he's trying to imply we're having sex or he knows me better than he does. Either way I don't appreciate him telling people untrue stuff about me.

How the hell do I get this guy off my back? I just want to be left alone. He makes me super uncomfortable and I don't even want him to talk to me ever.


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12 Aug 2016, 5:21 pm

He is harassing you. Report him. Do not stop to warn him, and do not wait to collect more evidence. Report him for harassment NOW.

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13 Aug 2016, 5:26 am

Fnord wrote:
He is harassing you. Report him. Do not stop to warn him, and do not wait to collect more evidence. Report him for harassment NOW.

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I know I should but I'm concerned about him causing me problems by s**t talking me to other coworkers if I do. I feel that since he's already telling people a lie about me he would have no trouble telling people I reported him for no reason and that I'm a b***h.


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13 Aug 2016, 7:12 am

Tell the others that he's full of s**t and that you don't even talk to him. Then in front of one or two ask him what makes him go around telling folks you have that tattoo. He will probably make something up. Tell him something like "well you need to be keeping my name up out your mouth".

And tell the other that if he says something about you just to consider it a lie. Also tell him if he doesn't shut up about you that you will report him. And next time, report him. But first tell him to keep your name put of his mouth. And use a serious tone when you do it too. Look angry. Make sure you tell him he needs to do that.


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13 Aug 2016, 8:07 am

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Tell the others that he's full of s**t and that you don't even talk to him. Then in front of one or two ask him what makes him go around telling folks you have that tattoo. He will probably make something up. Tell him something like "well you need to be keeping my name up out your mouth".

And tell the other that if he says something about you just to consider it a lie. Also tell him if he doesn't shut up about you that you will report him. And next time, report him. But first tell him to keep your name put of his mouth. And use a serious tone when you do it too. Look angry. Make sure you tell him he needs to do that.



+1 Agreed



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13 Aug 2016, 3:58 pm

That guy sounds super creepy and you should follow Fnord's advice and report him.

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I know I should but I'm concerned about him causing me problems by s**t talking me to other coworkers if I do. I feel that since he's already telling people a lie about me he would have no trouble telling people I reported him for no reason and that I'm a b***h.


If that guy is very popular with the other co-workers you may have a problem - but perhaps he is equally creepy towards the rest of the team as well? I think you should tell your co-workers about the Tweety bird tattoo, which should lower his credibility in any case - I think it's a messed up thing to say, and I think anyone would agree.

(Judging from your profile picture, I take it you're aboard a star destroyer and the guy you're talking about is Kylo Ren. What you need to do is find that hot pilot guy and jump ship... ;) ;) ;))


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14 Aug 2016, 6:05 pm

lidsmichelle wrote:
Fnord wrote:
He is harassing you. Report him. Do not stop to warn him, and do not wait to collect more evidence. Report him for harassment NOW.

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I know I should but I'm concerned about him causing me problems by s**t talking me to other coworkers if I do. I feel that since he's already telling people a lie about me he would have no trouble telling people I reported him for no reason and that I'm a b***h.
If you are afraid to report him, then he will see that as encouragement to harass you further - "She never complained" is the same excuse used by sexists, bullies, and rapists everywhere.

Do you really want your silence to encourage harassment, bullying, or worse?

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15 Aug 2016, 12:57 am

lidsmichelle wrote:
So I have this co-worker who works in another area of the store. Every time he sees me in the break room he talks to me even though I refuse to look at him and give monosyllabic responses. He makes me uncomfortable.

Anyways I had a feeling he has a crush on me which has been confirmed. This also makes me uncomfortable because I don't date coworkers.

And finally, he's telling people I have a Tweety bird tattoo. I don't. I don't know why he's telling people this, unless he's trying to imply we're having sex or he knows me better than he does. Either way I don't appreciate him telling people untrue stuff about me.

How the hell do I get this guy off my back? I just want to be left alone. He makes me super uncomfortable and I don't even want him to talk to me ever.


The way harassment laws work you must first tell him to stop and your uncomfortable with him and report it to your supervisor. Due to your sex they should follow through. I am having the same situation at work with a person who actually put their hands on me. Sadly because I am a male they are dragging their feet.



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21 Aug 2016, 9:35 pm

Harassment laws vary state by state, but generally some conduct is so objectionable that you are not expected to ask the person to stop. If he's going around telling lies about what you look like naked - which is exactly what he's doing with the "tweety bird" comments - then he has probably crossed that line.

I think Fnord is right, and you should report him.