I don't like someone at work

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I love my job, and during my shift (which is evenings) there are only a few of us in and I like them.
Except for one of them.
He's a very cocky man who I find is rude and selfish. He used to finish an hour after I started, but lately he's been staying on throughout the whole evening ever since he's been into this girl that works with me.
For some reason I get shy around him and I don't really speak his language (I don't mean he's foreign, I mean he's just on a completely different "page" to me).
I feel like because I'm quiet, polite and serious, he might not like me. I often feel excluded when he's around, especially being so he's there every single night now while the others are on staggered shifts.
Even the girl who works with me isn't so friendly towards me any more since he's been interested in her, plus she's loud and hogs all the attention anyway.
Also this guy usually goes out and brings back take-outs like McDonalds or pizza, but he never asks me if I want any, or even offers. I'm not saying I expect anything, but I still can't help but feel a little left out.

Because I love my job, I try to focus on it. But feeling socially excluded affects me emotionally. It wouldn't be so bad if this guy was only in some evenings and one of the nicer friendlier guys were in more. I remember one of the friendly guys saying to me that the cocky guy is immature and annoying, so I have a feeling I'm not the only one who feels this way about him. But because of his overly self-confidence, he kind of takes over so you've got no choice but to put up with him. And cocky people like that are more intimidating when you're shy like me.

I suppose you'll always get at least one person you dislike in every workplace. But him being around seems to slightly unmask my social awkwardness, where as when he wasn't there so much I could talk more and feel included.

I don't especially like anyone at my job either.....for many of the same reasons you list. I just do my job, smile that I'm getting paid to be there....

I get along with my current coworkers just fine. The coworkers I had in my department the first three years I worked there were hard to connect with. I didn't feel like a part of the team and I didn't feel appreciated by my old coworkers. One coworker in particular was irritating because she liked to dominate everything and be the center of attention. She was only productive when she thought she could show off to people she deemed important. She kissed our team leader's ass nonstop. Our team leader really didn't seem to care much about the kids' behavior. She was too lenient with the kids. A lot of the classroom teachers and IAs were glad when she and my other coworkers left last year. I was glad to know I was not the only who felt that way about my old coworkers. My current coworkers and team leader make me feel appreciated and included. My current team leader has a much better rapport with the principal than my old team leader. Because of that, we are getting a good handle on the behavior problems that many of our kids have had over the years.

It sucks that your coworkers are being so rude to you. Eventually, they will end up somewhere else. At least I hope they do for your sake.

The job is too cushy, which is why they'll probably stick around forever. Well, it's only the guy I mentioned that I wish would go, but he's the most likely to stay forever out of all of them because he's lazy and the job suits him well. The others are nice.

Forget about this guy. You get along with the other folks, so just hang out with the other folks.

Many people just get take-out/take-away without asking anybody else. Probably most people do that.

It's probably no reflection on you as a person. It's just the way he is.

Don't let this guy ruin your "cushy" job. It's not worth it---since you actually like most of the people there.

You seem to have some mixed feelings about this guy. You clearly don't like him, yet you feel excluded by him and that hurts your feelings.

Has it occurred to you that he might pick up on your dislike of him, and keep his distance?

My recommendation is to be a little friendlier to him - just being sure to greet him the first time you see him each day - and also remind yourself not to feel excluded by his behavior.

Getting along with those who aren't your favorite people is part of the challenge of every job. It sounds like you are doing OK with this, so don't let this one annoying situation ruin the rest of the job's good points.

I hear you. I totally hate the guts of the woman in the next cube over from me. She's super conformist and judgy, talks about nothing endlessly, uses her kids to get out of doing her fair share of the work, lies to the boss, and does such shoddy work I'm always staying late fixing her s*** on the sky because I'm the PM. Plus she remembers every tiny thing I've ever said about myself and uses the info to ambush me with super nosy questions. And has complained about me to the boss for stuff I didn't do. And yes, it does make it harder to keep my false face on. I have some memorized scripts for when I have to talk to her, but I breathe easier when she leaves early for kid pick-up every day.

(I do actually like my other immediate co-worker a lot, so it's not that I just hate everyone! But that one likes the other one, so I'm stuck in the middle socially.)

Hang in there! Remember, you don't have to ACTUALLY like your co-workers! Just successfully conceal that you hate them! Marginally easier...

I don't hate anyone at work. And I don't show him how I feel. I always greet him when I get to work, but if I didn't greet him I don't think he'd greet me first.
I'm trying not to take it personally. We just have completely different personalities. He's overconfident, constantly uses profanity, is rude (like farts and burps loudly in front of anybody), is lazy, is immature for his age, and seems unable to listen to or understand people's emotional state. He seems like a narcissist type of person.

Hang in there. The odds are in your favor!
IMHO most relationships do not maintain this level of attention for all that long - especially with a fellow who is that egotistical. Sounds like they are in the early stage where you want to spend gobs of time together. Give it a year (or considerably less) and IF they are still in a relationship he will be relaxing at home after working instead of buying her meals.

Just to say that the guy who I was talking about who I said I didn't like, I've figured out I like him now. He's not as bad as I thought he was. He may swear a lot and lack manners, but he's never upset anybody since I've been there, and I don't feel as uncomfortable around him any more. I have a dry sort of sense of humour and he often laughs (not at me, but with me). I like making people laugh.

That's good. This is the kind of thing that happens pretty often when you meet new people.

You're skeptical of them at first----but you get to the know the person better, and start liking them.

This happens with me all the time. People frequently don't like me at first---but like me as they get to know me better.

win win win. Glad this situation turned around for you, joe.

In that situation I would pray for the individual that is irritating me. I'm not trying to push religion on anyone but more of spirituality. If you believe in a higher power, praying to them for strength to deal with that person can help greatly. If you're an atheist, please ignore this post.