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23 Feb 2019, 10:37 pm

Hi everyone, my name is Joe. I am a recently graduated physics major living at home. It’s been about 2 months since I’ve graduated, and the transition from college life to searching for a job has been difficult. In college, I was not the most social person. I was often depressed and overwhelmed and isolated myself in my room, especially in my senior year. Even my graduation was underwhelming. It was cancelled due to a Mumps outbreak at my school. Two months have passed since I haven’t had much luck with my job search. I’ve done about 30 applications and have had 1 interview, which I didn’t get.

I was going strong for the first 3 weeks or so, but afterwards I started to fall back into depression. Because of this there has been some tension between me and my parents. I couldn’t ask for better parents and if it wasn’t for them I wouldn’t be where I am today, but after four and a half years they have started to lose patience. I fully admit that I haven’t been doing everything I should with the job search. There are many areas of my life that need significant improvement; socially, professionally, and self. However, I have been seriously lacking the motivation and drive (not that I had much to begin with).

So that is what is going on. For those who have just graduated from college and staying at home, how did you deal with life after college? What did you do to keep yourself going? How long did it take you to finally get a job? Any feedback or suggestions would be appreciated. Thank you for taking the time to read this.


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26 Feb 2019, 3:50 pm

I had a similar experience, except i dropped out as a comp sci fresher, and had more social problems than academic that meant most aspects of uni life were way out of my comfort zone so lived a reclusive couple of years in uni accomodation through the only way i knew to escape reality which was gaming. From what i can see it has been 4 years from once you left and it too had been 4 years until i finally got a job to pay towards my living, my relatives whom i live with have been understanding also dealing with other mental issues.

I got advice from a guy in my job saying he only got most jobs from actually being bothered to make an effort and not just sit on the computer and blindly apply for anything that you think might be a good match - took advantage of free training courses funded by the government, not sure if it might be different where you are.


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26 Feb 2019, 4:02 pm

Do you have any friends your age or any peers that you know who you might be able to share an apartment with and move out of your parent's house?

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02 Mar 2019, 6:14 pm

I honestly went through about three physically demanding jobs. One of them was my old job from college. I spent about seventeen months out of college looking for the right onw. I found it right about there and then last year, with a little help from my employment specialist. What I did was keep myself focused on my remaining two goals out of three: 1.) Get a significant other (check), 2.) Get a well-paying job for my self-directed services, and 3.) Move out by next decade around the corner. Its been about a year with me and my girl and we both haven't moved out of our parents' homes yet. My advice would be to you find something you like, read the job description carefully and if it matches your interests and you meet the requirements go right for it. Your goals aren't going to chase you you've got to chase them. So I would stay patient and steadfast so that you get there smoothly because happiness is like a butterfly and it only comes and sits on your shoulder when you let it. But I wouldn't sit anywhere waiting around for nothing because my second goal was like catching a loose pig by its hind legs and it kept letting go when I finally caught it by the heels near the end of last year.