Not good with kids

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Just started a new job at daycare I feel like the kids can see right though me. One is scared of me. The coworkers haven’t introduced themselves they kind of ignore me and don’t make any eye contact I tried to make small talk they answer with yes or no but don’t ever come up to talk to me.

One of them asked if I was alright. I try appear friendly but it never works I have resting b***h face 24/7

My voice is so low, one kid kept shoving crayons in his little brothers ears I tired to get him to stop but he couldn’t even hear me
I have no kids myself I don’t know how to talk to them


They look at me for guidance but I can barely guide myself

What’s even worse is that these kids grew up here and have no idea who this 6 foot tall girl with an angry look on her Face is

I’m thinking of quitting, any advice on how to deal with small children?

You know I think I prefer the babies than the kids they don’t seem to notice how strange I am lol

It sounds like you have a confidence problem. You may need to take a course in self-assertion, or you may just need a little more life experience to help you assert yourself.

Another problem is kids these days are like little kings and queens. We mustn't piss them off. Woe to us if we tell them no. I don't think it's a healthy way to bring them up at all, and that's why I no longer work in the education system.

Having said that, I've always found kids in general respond really well to a quiet, honest chat. When you take them aside and explain things to them with logic and an honest belief that they can do better, they often respond beautifully.

As an example, I was once in the home of a new mother whose toddler wouldn't stop shouting. He had been indulged so much that he was never told to quiet down, and just thought his voice was the only voice that needed to be heard. I was trying to have a chat to his mother, but I couldn't hear a word she was saying. Both she and the kid's father didn't even think to tell him to pipe down. So I called his name and when I had his attention, I said calmly with a friendly smile, "When you shout like that, I can't hear what your mum's saying to me." I said it in a way that I believed he would definitely see the logic in what I was saying and agree with me.

I still remember his reaction to this day: his eyes got really wide and he stopped yelling immediately. It was like nobody had ever explained that to him before and he suddenly got it. Score!

Not everyone is good at their job

You might get better with time

"I feel like the kids can see right though me. "

You "feel" it. It is not necessarily correct

Even if it is correct, so what?


"One is scared of me."
People are afraid of different things. For justified or unjustified reasons

"The coworkers haven’t introduced themselves "

If you want, you can introduce you to to co-worker




"My voice is so low, one kid kept shoving crayons in his little brothers ears I tired to get him to stop but he couldn’t even hear me"

It is easier for someone with a low pitched voice to speak with a higher pitch, than vice versa


"I’m thinking of quitting, "

If you think it over and decide quitting is better than not quitting, then quit.

But you have to think about what other job you then have to work at

Plenty of jobs are worse than yours

If you have plenty of job skills, that is one thing. Otherwise,

Kids are very good at feeling energy actually therefore they can sense when someone is insecure and they use that to do what they want because they know you won't be confident enough to raise your voice to stop them and they can also feel uncomfortable around you if you are uncomfortable around them or if they feel you're not genuine or any other reason that may make them feel like they cannot trust you.

This means you have to toughen up and also relax and smile more even if you have to force the smile it will come naturally after a while anyway. Working at a daycare can be fun even though it's also stressful so try and have fun and be curious like if a kid is drawing ask him or her what they're drawing and show genuine interest in it, talk to them and make them feel as though they're not just in your way making you feel uncomfortable and irritated. Think about the fact that some kids may miss their parents they don't choose to be at daycare, they need your support and they need to feel like they are being cared for. If you can't be this person for them you should probably quit. I've on and off worked extra at daycares myself and I enjoy it and I find it to be fulfilling to be there, make the kids happy and look out for them but i've seen some of those i've worked with have cared very little and barely payed attention if a kid falls and hurt themselves. That makes me sad, those people clearly only work there because they need a job not because they like or care about children and then it's better to work elsewhere. At the last daycare I was at the co-workers didn't talk to me either but I tried not to care because I wasn't there for them. I rarely get along with other people anyway as I don't do small talk.