Think I may be giving bad vibe to coworkers?

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I’ve tired talking to them but they never come up to talk to me I see them laugh and make jokes with each other


I just don’t understand, maybe they’re scared of me when I ask question (still kind of new here working for a month) one of the girls acts annoyed by me.

I don’t understand how “normal people” can get along so easily it just doesn’t make sense one other girl is new here too and she’s already friends with the people who’ve been here for a few years.
All the coworkers are young adults (including me)

Maybe I give off a bad vibe maybe it’s my resting b***h face. I just don’t know.

How do you guys make friends with coworkers?

(Sorry for grammar mistakes}

I think as long as you make an effort to be nice to them and interact with them it would work out. If they ignore you or act rude to you in any way it's okay to ignore them back i think. That's what i did any way, i'm not going to make an effort for people who don't make an effort for me.

I wish I had an answer for you. Sadly I feel in the same situation, though I’ve always felt that way. It’s as if I can feel people’s agitation when I walk up, when I say something it’s followed by... idk what the correct word is, maybe condescending or sarcastic tones? It makes me sad.

I feel for you, other people appearing to fit in and you think what do they do so differently? Why am I so different?

I’ve only worked at my current job for the past 3 months; but when I come up to people they say “What” bluntly or don’t attempt to engage in any conversation.

I’ve always thought it to be being a married male working with a bunch of females. But no that can’t be it because when I worked with nothing but males I was also not liked.

I want to come up with an answer for you but honestly the only thing I can really say is I’m sorry you have to go through that, I can empathize with your situation.

I know the one person said they wouldn’t make an effort to be liked if they weren’t liked in the first place. But, idk for me it’s really draining. But then again my psychiatrist had noted I do have signs of suffering from chronic loneliness.

Slightly under-trying seems to be the coin of the realm.

For example, living in a Houston apartment I used to be embarrassed that I knew like zero neighbors, then I found out that this was standard for most apartment dwellers, both spectrum or not! Then I developed my own method of light friendly conversation as I kept walking. That way the person is not afraid of getting bogged down.

Still developing this and similar methods, and if it becomes a deeper conversation and possibly beginning stages of friendship. I tell myself, go slow, appreciate the process, and just accept the flaws of the other person. And I do sometimes mistake simple acquaintance-ship for friendship.

And I hate to say it, but once a person fairly or unfairly gets a rep, it becomes an entrenched situation. I mean, even if you had an identical twin with excellent social skills, it might take them a while to improve the situation, and it would be far from hundred percent odds.

Might consider looking for a new -- and better! -- job. And since you already have a job, this can be a job hunt on the casual side.

And just be bland on the reason, "looking for more challenge," or "transportation issues"