Communicating at work

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Hello, my name is robert. I decided to set up this account after watching The Good Doctor. I noticed I had a lot in common with Sean Murphy in relation with his difficulties at work. I am typically very good at whatever job I have, but, I do find socializing very difficult. This challenge makes working more stressful than it should be. People think I'm weird so they undervalue my ability to perform based purely on thier perception of my personality. I'm not worried about what they think of me on a personal level, I'm worried how thier views of me as a person will effect my ability to succeed in the work place. I've often been called vague and an overanalyzer by the same person, this makes no sense to me as these two labels directly oppose each other. When people's wording defies logic it hinders my ability to communicate in a way i think they will understand. I am just curious what solutions people may have. How do I avoid conflicting views of my coworkers logic and decision making? How do I communicate effectively when I'm not sure what people will understand? When is it okay to point out when people dont make sense? And when I do point it out, how do I prevent upsetting people? Please help! I'm about to start a job as a CNC Maintenance Technician and I dont want to ruin it.

Well, bear in mind that people usually don't like us pointing out their lack of logic.
I would suggest just letting it go, if you can, so as not to irritate.
In my experience, it's safest just to ask enough clarifying questions to clear misunderstandings and understand their expectations of your work and leave it at that.

I'm on the run right now, but wanted to say I received a comment like that. Mine was: "You either write too much or you write too little." I find for me that ASD manifests for me as extremes. Moderation is overrated (or rather, it's hard! for me.)

When I work hard but the schmoozer gets rewarded (and he admits he didn't do the work, but he did attend lots of afterhours parties), there is Logic. It's not logic that I agree with.

I can struggle to communicate at work too. I am a housekeeper in a hotel and I struggle to keep up the pace at times. They know I have autism but I keep getting asked why I always go over my end time. I know they are doing their job and they don't want trouble. My mind just spins when I try to think of a good reason. They keep telling me I should ask for help if I am struggling which I know I should but something is holding me back.

They reassure me that the other girls in my department have gone overtime as well and they have to ask them why too. But I haven't heard the others getting grief. I feel everything gets directed at me because I am autistic. I have been compared to the others in my department and why can't I do the same? It makes me jealous of my colleagues because I am not strong like them. I want to socialize with them but it can be challenging.