Not wanting too work!

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If you want me too be honest I am a lazy person who doesn’t want too work. I left college in 2010 and didn’t work untill 2014 when I was forced too do a mainstream job however it only lasted 6 months due too my mental health problems/attitude. After that I was unemployed again from 2015-2020. I will be starting my new job 2020 in a workshop for disabled people since I am autistic.


I do lie too my friends by saying I have a job but I am still labelled by others as being a ”scrounger”.

Do you think I probably deserve the label of scrounger?? I am age 30 still live with my parents

If you don't feel like your friends should tell you that you are a "scrounger", tell them to stop. Get new friends. Or just passive aggressively tolerate them.

You can choose your friends.

Plenty of people are "lazy". They still work

Not everyone is good at their job. Not everyone likes their job. Not everyone likes their boss or co-worker. Not everyone works at their ideal job.

Are you a "scrounger"? I'm not sure exactly what that means. Does that mean a leech?

I'm guessing it means taking advantage of someone or "sponging" off of them. Are you a scrounger? I guess that depends:

If you've tried your best at gainful employment over a period of time and you can't sustain employment due to factors, limitations related to your autism, then I would say no.

If can are physically and mentally capable of working but you simply hate having to work because it's more fun to stay home, not work and have your parents provide for you in every way, then I'd say yes.

What job was it?
And was it not difficult to get a job with a 4 year gap of doing nothing?

It was an easy IT job. Very repetitive job in nature.

I'm a bit of a "moocher" - I think that's similar. If someone offers something, I'll say "yes!" when apparently the NT thing to do is say "no, thank you." My AS-like BFF and I both took a decade to settle into our work. Wishing the new job is a supportive environment and goes well for you!

I'm not sure if anyone really 'wants' to work. If they did, there wouldn't be a need to pay people to do it.

People want to have an income, sure. Sometimes people even like doing (some of) the various things associated with a job, or consider it as supporting a particular goal or vision in some way. Or they feel obligated to work due to financial commitments or societal pressure. Or they've been at a very low rung socially and a job is a way for them to have a sense of self-value, or at least something they can point to to show they're doing the socially accepted thing or that a hiring manager or boss thought enough of them to draft them into a McJob.

And of course people like being able to say they have a very prestigious job.

But given the option of going to work for 20 years, or being able to do anything they liked for the same amount of money, benefits, and social status, few people are going to choose the job.

So Jamsey, just joining the dots here. Does your brothers friend (the female friend who ignores you) work, or is she on benefits?

she works

I'm not sure what it means to "deserve" the label of scrounger, but I can say that I wouldn't call you one. I don't have a problem with people who don't want to work and who live with their parents as adults.

I don't want to work either:

Too many hours
Long bus ride
Inconvenient schedule
Rude customer, coworker, boss
Uniform
Loud, crowded, smells, dirty
Standing up all day long
Socially awkward talking on phone
Fear of redundant
Eczema
Boring
Overqualified
Slavery

Not everyone wants to work

Where I come from LOTS of conservatives go on & on about how anyone who is disabled & on any kinda benefits are lazy leeches sucking on the teats of the hard-working American tax payer. I'm currently disabled & on benefits & I really resent being thought of that way. It's a major reason I hated living with my parents. My mom gripped a lot about how I wasn't working cuz I was lazy even thou I was putting in apps for most any job I thought I might could do & I was working over 55 hours a week when I was employed & allowed to work extra because I wanted to help out & feel like I was becoming more independent. It sux when others cant relate & judge you poorly for situations that you cant help. Some people, more so those of us on the spectrum. Have various issues finding & maintaining employment which may look to others like we're lazy & not wanting to work when in reality we're doing the best we can but we're so burnt-out from having jobs that aren't rite for us that we just don't know how to go about doing any better than what we're doing.

I have been unable to find any job not even the lowest paid jobs that I do not want to do. I find it hard to fake being interested in jobs that I do not want to do.

its not that i don't want to work. its just the environment/type of work i keep working in. if i didn't have to work with people and be able to do the/a job from home then i'll never leave my house.

ASD *IS* a disability and claiming state help with it is NOT scrounging.

I loathe those that refer to anyone in this situation as a scrounger. Maybe when they have mental health problems they'll comprehend what the issue really is and the reason why many like us aren’t able to work.