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How do you handle work?

I must confess, when I changed jobs 8 months ago I found it completely scary. I couldn't actually speak to anyone in the kitchen until about 2 months into the job. Thankfully now, I am quite lucky because my manager (who knows about my AS) actually lets me just get on with what I'm doing and be off in my own little world or failing that just gives me a list of jobs at the start of the day to do on top of the cooking and then I don't have to be spoken to all day which is rather nice.

The people I work with are actually amazingly understanding, to save a lot of questions I don't want to answer I just use social phobia as a reason for not going out at the night-time when invited. They are all very understanding and don't bother me too often when I'm in my own world. The only thing that I'm not keen on is the people there like to touch - just the arms, shoulder etc. But I hate it, I completely freeze up.

They'll quit touching you after awhile. It's no fun touching anybody who freezes up. The only challenge will be having to keep "retraining" the new hires who will want to touch you.

I wonder if some professions touch more than others. I am a registered nurse and of course my profession has a lot of touching. So in the business settings I now work with, I have to remember not to touch. I'm doing pretty good. If someone touches me first, then I feel free to touch them.

OOPS! Wrong thread!

Man.... why do people insist of being so touchy-feely anyways??

Again I think most of America is insecure - and a lot of people are trying to "bond" with you, if even only in friendship or mutual respect on the job.

Do you wear glasses? Do you ever put your hand up to your glasses to adjust them if you need to or not? Watch people with glasses. They do that because they are trying to "ground" themselves.

Don't be so hard on touchy/feelies either! You don't want them to be hard on you! Try not to make it a hang-up or you will get really anxious.

Just communicate that you aren't comfortable with being touched - ever! And communicate that it isn't personal - you are that way with everybody.

I work as a custodian. We're all assigned areas, so we mostly work alone. I'm THE floor crew and have to cover for others when they are out. Usually I'll only see my co-workers at the beginning and ending of the shift and during breaks. We have a computer in the break room, I hog it and get teased about it from time to time. Most of them leave me alone and I think they largely respect me. I know some have said negative things about me, but they are largely true and I try to correct them when I can. Some of the security guys like to poke fun at me when I go to their office for keys, or when they see me on their routes, but it hasn't been mean spirited so far as I can tell.

Mostly I stay quiet unless I need something, I only talk about the job. I'm out of sight as much as possible.

In a few years we(My #4 brother and I) were thinking of moving up to Tennessee. I'm kind of worried about finding an accepting job up there. But I haven't had much trouble getting a job in the past, and I hate worrying so I try not to.