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What do you do when coworke4rs want to be with you outside of work. I have my own things to do, and frankly I donmt want my personaly to exist in them.

Just make up excuses when they ask to hangout out side of work. I feel the same way as you. Just dont get involved in the first place!!

I wouldn't have had a social life if I didn't socialise with co-workers. I got to go to a lot of pubs and restaurants and I had some good times. It ends when the job ends because it's phony anyway, but I got to experience things I wouldn't have otherwise. Where I worked you had to be seen to associate with others, you couldn't be a loner, it was a kind of death to be seen as alone.

What type of job do you have?
If is a carreer job, it's good to have colleagues, if it's a dead end job then who cares.

If you don't want to socialize with them you could try doing what I do - I just say 'oh, sorry I can't - I'm going out with friends /having dinner at a friend's place, etc. Which I'm not, but they don't know that - and it stops them from accusing me of being antisocial.

Yes, just tell a white lie. I certainly wouldn't reject it all out of hand, though, you never know when you'll want some company. If you just say 'no' all the time, they'll end up not askingyou at all, and I personally think it's better to be asked, even if you're not going to accept, than just to be ignored.

For me, I've never really had that problem, quite the opposite, in fact: I would have liked to have been asked out places after work, but in 9 years I could count the number of times I went out with them on one hand. Not helped by the fact that I worked mainly with women who tend to go out in bunches anyway.

I agree with this. If you have a job where "networking" is important, it's probably good to bite the bullet and hang out with the co-workers once in awhile. But if not, then whatever. They should respect the fact that you have a life outside of work.