Vocational skills training help needed

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Basically I am a 32 year old unempoyed man with Asperger Syndrome with no real skills apart from basic admin and a very chequered work history, and even then if things were not clear or not shown / explained to me adequately it has made me over obsessive about trivial details of tasks and getting me sacked for low productivity, being too slow, not getting things completed or not doing the work properly.

I seem to have the executive functions or adult life skills deficit as I am in debt with money and when working in the past and even volunteering recently have had problems being late or calling in absent for work due to not being organised in essential adult life skills which are essential for adults to live independently. I also have tended to not take things in properly and get over obsessive about parts of tasks and be too slow, or not carrying out the work properly as I did not understand exactly what I needed to do or what I was told. It seems this fog has lifted recently as I am more fully aware now of the need to work to actually survive.

I have severe depressive and anxiety symptoms about this as I feel like I am not a real adult as I still live completely off my father and benefits.

Basically I was not fully aware that one has to work to actually pay to live and survive over the last few years, despite intellectually knowing this on a level, and I kept procrastinating about that situation thinking I would have that routine sorted after being on benefits as a safety cushion and occasional volunteering for a while, but I got demotivated and stayed in a kind of comfort zone and did not develop over the last three years. I have difficulty with basic housework so I think how would I be able to do things like cleaning or labouring jobs as an actual job if I had to suddenly find a job to enable me to pay rent (I don't at the moment) and eat? That is before the people element gets taken into consideration i.e are they hard bosses and co-workers?, although this last bit would be less important if I suddenly had to find work to survive, keep shelter and eat.

Also actually feel ashamed as being a burden on my father who is the sole provider.

I would like to learn the basic life and vocational skills like how to clean properly, do housework, cook, prepare meals, budget with money and all those things and develop the routine which I am finding very difficult to do at home at the moment - made worse by severe anxiety and depression.

I may be able to write well but if I don't have the life skills, and the mental organisation and learning of this sorted, then this can mean little.
Sensory processing or integration problems (that is taking information and your surroundings in properly) are probably one of the main reasons why I haven't picked these and various social skills up as well.

For instance, I haven't ever had a shop cashiers job for example as counting the money or getting the change right under time pressure is not something I am good at, have faulty mental arithmetic and anxiety at serving customers means I may not last very long in those jobs. I am too scared to give up benefits as a financial lifeline in case even basic jobs don't work out due to my occasional poor timekeeping. I need to develop my living routine and timings and am not confident at holding down a living in anything at the moment.

I really want to know about vocational training courses and schemes that can prepare me for work (say cleaning skills and food preparation for example) and enable me to learn the life skills I haven't really picked up, such as budgeting, for the "real world". Does anyone know of any useful sources or places for this in the U.K?

Any help and advice would be appreciated.