how can i stop being treated like my peers?

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long story short...

due to being assaulted and thus droping out of college i had no choice but to either give up or go for the last resort, as i'm stubborn i decided it wasn't time for me to throw in the towel. i started attending a college for youth offenders and those with certain 'needs', i can say from personal views that there are few combinations that are worse.
whilst i was there i was constantly doing remedial work similar to that i had done at primary school and everyone expected me to be either a criminal or somewhat ret*d, as soon as i started talking people would treat me like an idiot because they weren't intelligent enough to understand what i was saying and because i have the disorders i do they believed i had to be wrong.

last week i attended a 'pathways to work' program because i'm looking for a job, i was given a set of questions and given fifteen minutes to complete it... i was done in twelve seconds. i was asked to go through it again as i couldn't have completed it that quickly and when it turned out i was correct they asked me how i cheated, they went on to say no one who's entered the door of their building has been able to acomplish what i had and so i must have been cheating.

even when i prove i don't belong where i am i'm treated even worse, what am i supposed to do?

sounds like a severe case of institutional burnout. You were sent there because 'obviously' (not), you had to either be learning challenged, or thought with your fists. Since the institution 'can't' make mistakes, then you don't conform to their mindset.

Similarly, your 'peers' are there because they do conform to the stereotypical mindset they're dealing with, both groups see you as too 'different'.

Don't know the circumstances; but it sounds like those who assaulted you should be there, instead of you. I wonder if there's a way to arrange the appropriate transfers.

One thing you need to learn that being stubborn is possible, but only if you can "afford" it. To say it drastically: If you want to f**k society, you must allow society to f**k you a bit. They are stronger. I learned this on the hard way, too.

To be more concrete: You need yourself, what you want from college? According to to your profile your are just 19. If you fail now it is very likely that you will spend the rest of your live in unqualified jobs with a low payment and often job changes. Being a bit strange or odd makes live not easier, but if your formal qualification is good enough you may find a niche in society in which such a behaviour is tolerated or even accepted.

If you really want to be stubborn: Play by their rules, but learn those first. Do not try, as an Aspie to play with the unwritten rule, they are better in this; learn the written rules. When I was in college I had in the beginning a lot of trouble with the teachers, but soon they had the trouble, when I started to familiarize myself with the formal rules and started to write letters to the authorities starting with "Mr. X, teacher at ... , ordered me at ... This is against Sec. x, of the ministerial ordnance of ... Law Gazette, p. 454, Vol 4 of ...". After the third letter of this kind, any kind of trouble from the teachers stopped. Quite the opposite was the case.



I do agree with you that being in a special college for young offenders and other is the wrong place for an Aspie. You must do you your best to go back to normal college and make your A-Levels.