I'm sick of trying to get support

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I'm sick of trying to look for support as a Mum with Aspergers with a 3.5 year old possibly on the spectrum, but only finding support for parents of Aspie children.

I have Aspergers and my 3.5 year old daughter possibly does too (I'm pretty sure but the nursery autism specialist doesn't - sigh). I'm struggling constantly.

Her behaviour is very challenging recently and I'm constantly fighting to keep myself afloat and not have meltdowns/shutdowns/engage in my special interests/routines/rituals obsessively as a result.

Every time I try to look for other people's experiences of this online (it's what I do with anything), all I can find are stuff relating to parents of children with autism.

For pete's sake, do Aspie parents not exist? Not matter?

I can't cope.

Autistic parent here!
There is very little support for autistic adults in general. We need to build our own network of support - I gues this is what WP is all about.
The suspected-aspie child is far easier for me than the suspected-NT, by the way At least we understand each others' needs.
Can you get some support from your family/friends/child's father? Sometimes a few days off make all the difference.

I agree with Magz about seeing about getting breaks. If you have to, give yourself time-outs. Seriously. A true time-out is supposed to be calming not punitive. Give yourself one when you need to--plus it is good modeling for the little one to learn to take a break when s/he needs it, too. Whether s/he is on the spectrum or not, it is a good thing to learn the signs of internal distress and to take a break when needed.

What are your biggest challenges and maybe we can give more specific advice?