08 Dec 2024, 1:01 pm
Devoted wrote:
Fenn, I wish I could help with your first post. 
We share similar parenting worries ("Am I doing enough?" "Am I doing too much?" "What the heck should I even *be* doing???").
For the following, though, I have an idea:
Contact your HOA and ask for a disability variance. The actual disability isn't any of their business, but you should be able to say something to the effect of, "I, Fenn, residing at [wherever-you-live], request a variance/exception to the newly adopted 2-vehicle limit. My household contains individuals with medically diagnosed disabilities, requiring the on-property use and storage of 3 working vehicles. Thank you for your consideration."
What are your thoughts...?
We share similar parenting worries ("Am I doing enough?" "Am I doing too much?" "What the heck should I even *be* doing???").For the following, though, I have an idea:
Fenn wrote:
To add insult to injury the HOA (Home Owners Association) just announced much stricter parking regulations. If my DS (Dear Son) had a full time job and had moved out the two car limit wouldn’t be a problem.
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P.S. I probably should have mentioned my son is ADHD+Autism (diagnosed) and so am I
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P.S. I probably should have mentioned my son is ADHD+Autism (diagnosed) and so am I
Contact your HOA and ask for a disability variance. The actual disability isn't any of their business, but you should be able to say something to the effect of, "I, Fenn, residing at [wherever-you-live], request a variance/exception to the newly adopted 2-vehicle limit. My household contains individuals with medically diagnosed disabilities, requiring the on-property use and storage of 3 working vehicles. Thank you for your consideration."
What are your thoughts...?
Thanks for the reply. Worthwhile trying. Irritated thing: there really is no parking problem on my block: evidenced by several empty parking spaces every evening when I go for a walk. Apparently other areas it is a real problem. We are in the process of trying to rent garage space.
Had our weekly meeting. DS is looking into an adhd executive function coach. He continues to work part time at Amazon. Has been applying to jobs on LinkedIn and did a second visit to the Zoo (he would love to work there, but like Broadway or Hollywood everybody wants to work there so they can afford to be picky.). First visit I had to go with him because he kept balking and anxiety and EF (Executive Function) issues would stop him. Second visit he drove his brother and actually talked to people about working there. They have a union. They choose union members first. You must have experience to become a union member. Catch 22 (need to have experience to become a union member; need to be a member to get experience). They have volunteer opportunities. (Catch 22 the volunteer positions do not work with the animals - they are people facing - he has autism and social anxiety). He is taking horseback riding lessons (no catch 22: you pay you get to work with real live animals - horses are animals). Next week he will visit Del Val (a local college with a Zoo Animal Science program that has internships with the zoo) just to show up and walk around campus. One step at a time. He continues to work on the “What Color Is My Parachute” workbook and the DBT workbook. Also adding the Project Management for Dummies to help with EF and Time Management (time less than one day or a few hours )/Project Management (things that take more than one day or more than 3 hours)
09 Dec 2024, 5:54 pm
Fenn wrote:
Irritated thing: there really is no parking problem on my block: evidenced by several empty parking spaces every evening when I go for a walk. Apparently other areas it is a real problem. We are in the process of trying to rent garage space.
Ugh. I hate it when HOAs 'fix' things that aren't broken.
Fenn wrote:
[...] the Zoo (he would love to work there, but like Broadway or Hollywood everybody wants to work there so they can afford to be picky.). [....] He is taking horseback riding lessons (no catch 22: you pay you get to work with real live animals - horses are animals).
Ages ago, I worked for a small-animal veterinarian.... Does the zoo have any cleaning/maintenance/landscaping jobs he might like to do? Porters/painters/gardeners typically have infrequent customer interactions, especially if they work outside normal operating hours. Might be a way to get his foot in the door?
Fenn wrote:
Next week he will visit Del Val (a local college with a Zoo Animal Science program that has internships with the zoo) just to show up and walk around campus. One step at a time.
This is fantastic!
I don't think there would be anything wrong with just showing up and walking around, getting familiar with the place. It reminds me of when I attended university, I frequently sat in on large lectures that I wasn't signed up for, to fill time between classes and see if I'd be interested in the subject before committing. I never took exams or did assignments, and no one ever mentioned anything to me about my attendance. This was over 25 years ago at a large public university, so it's possible things have changed, but it might be worth trying.
