I am pretty lenient about computer/screen time for my son (9 yrs). I actually don't mind the computer time, but is not all games. He is learning to program (he has a tutor helping 2 times a week), which involves all kinds of great skills - logic, math, typing. He really enjoys programming. When he does play computer games, it is often ones the requiring reading, which is something he struggled with in the past. He does play on-line with others (mostly his cousin), and they talk on-line so he does interact with others. I even allow him to get up 30 mins early in the morning to play before school (this has really helped our morning routine, he used to cry most mornings about going to school, playing computer before school helps him relieve some of his anxiety, and there has been a lot less tears). I also let him play immediately upon returning from school, to de-stress, before homework. I do have him do other things, Karate and piano, but his free time is weighted to screen time. School is such an unhappy place for him, it is hard to put a lot of limits on something that makes him happy and builds his self-confidence. Funny thing is, in my line of work, I am in front of a computer 9 hours a day (I am NT). No one (except me) is trying to limit my screen time.
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DS9 - Diagnosed with Autism Disorder
DD6 - NT