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23 Sep 2009, 3:36 pm

Maggiedoll wrote:
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my son wants to come back to live with me now that he's had a taste of real life with his dad, and I want to have him back because he's not obsessed with his relationship with his dad anymore and I feel like no one is actually managing his treatment. he gets drugs from the shrink and he's in a behavioral classroom, but no one communicates, least of all my ex.

Would that be like a court-ordered custody change? :? I mean, would he understand that he can't move back and forth whenever he gets frustrated with one of you? Sounds like his father probably isn't responsible enough to provide actual boundaries. I'd imagine that it's extremely difficult to provide any kind of consistency when the other parent is using the kid as a pawn, and it sounds like his father is doing exactly that.
My point is, could you be sure that as soon as your son gets angry at you for whatever there might be conflict over, he won't decide he wants to be with his dad again, and then is father let him move back just to mess with you?
yes, I've planned to prevent that kind of scenario. I went through it myself whenever my mother couldn't deal with me. she just kicked me out and I lived with my dad off and on, or with friends. I've drilled into my son that it's illegal for him to come to me without the police or the courts being involved, so if he wants to move back he has to be willing to live by my house rules and he has to make his case to the court-ordered family evaluator. I got the evaluator appointed because I'm sick of my ex using my kids emotionally to get back at me for divorcing him.



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23 Sep 2009, 4:34 pm

starygrrl wrote:
I would say if your son was diagnosed with both NLVD and Bipolar try to find a doctor who will stick to one diagnosis. I don't think he can have both. I will tell you because of the nature of NLVD, that your son is hard wired for anxiety. There has been evidence that anti-anxiety (or any psychoactive) drugs don't really work with NLVD. In reality the abusive relationship with his father has probably caused some form of PTSD (a severe anxiety disorder). If the anxiety is not treated correctly, and misidentified as bipolar, the treatment is probably improper.
thank you for sharing all that you have. your posts reflect exactly what I'm concerned about. my son actually does have PTSD in his diagnosis, and I also have it, because of my the things my ex has done to us.

the puzzle is getting more clear. hopefully the new psychiatrist can help sort it out. in the meantime, I'm filing papers to get custody of my son back.