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a job, at 19, might be a good way to get her off your case.
just part time. or even volunteer. Somewhere where oddballs flourish. Like the humane society.

or pick something along your interests. work at a garden center if you like plants, etc.

Having job experience puts you on the road to being more self reliant, and to your mother's eyes, it'll make you seem more 'responsable and mature' - at which point she'll be (slightly) more likely to listen to reason. Of course, at 19 you should be able to pursue a diagnosis if you wanted to. Not that a diagnosis guarantees your mom will listen. It wouldn't do squat with my dad.

You are an adult in the eyes of the law. It's that simple. Your mother is treating you like a child, and she should stop.

Whether what she is doing is legal is another story. Apparently, that kind of thing is being heavily debated as we speak. California, it seems, is making such activity a misdemeanor. The law, it seems, is geared toward protecting celebrities, but should apply to impersonating anyone, but that's only in California.

I'm a parent. My kids are quite a bit younger than you, and not adults, but I wouldn't dream of doing anything of the sort to them now, or ever.

IMHO, what your mother is doing is dead wrong. If you don't want the account, and have access to it, you can deactivate it. Click the Account link at the top of the page after you sign in, click Account Settings, then click Deactivate Account. You'll be asked why you want to deactivate it. I recommend choosing "I have a privacy concern," then explaining in the "Please explain further" box that you didn't create the account, and are being impersonated. It's up to you whether you want to explain who did it. Telling them isn't likely to get your mother into any trouble unless you happen to live in California, but even then, it isn't likely to, since you are so closely related.

If you do choose to deactivate the account, I would recommend before doing so that you remove every post she may have made, and every friend she may have added to the account.

As far as I am concerned you have every right to do this, and no obligation whatsoever to explain yourself to you your mother. Her actions are a violation of your personal space, and your identity. I also feel you are well within your rights and perfectly justified to be angry about this. Just don't blow up over it. It's not worth it. Tell her how you feel, firmly and matter-of-factly.

Such behavior by a parent is controlling and just plain wrong.

I have never been good with jobs, last one i had was extremely stressful and i ultimately got fired because all of my co workers disliked me. if they want an interview, i can pretty much just call it game over after that. many times i will drive somewhere to get an application, but once i get to the parkining lot my fear takes over and i will just sit for a while before i talk myself out of it and i just leave. then i tell my mom that i turned in an application so she wont get mad. I get absolutely terrified by the very thought of working with a bunch of people that i dont know, ever since my first job, i have never recovered... anyways, I am getting a few low cost redirect porn sites going now, hopefully i can make some money off of it from advertising. I have been slaving over my laptop for the last 4 days, but i doubt much will come from it. eventually i fear i will have to get a job. I have considered begging for change, but it seems too dishonest. i just got evicted, now my mom cut my money off and i will be homeless in 2 weeks, somethings gotta change fast. i do have close to $5000 in my savings account, so i can get by for a while on that if need be.