OhNowIGetIt wrote:
my ex had his mourning period, but i think he is still in it! "woe is me, I married an asperger, she produced aspie offspring, whats an NT to do!" lol, he is still determined to be a loving father I hope without the marrital struggle he will do it.
I find this to be so prevalent. Why is it okay to expect the Aspie to work towards 'being normal' yet it is okay for the NT to expect sympathy for 'what he's going through?' Isn't asking both partners to meet half way alot more effective than putting all of the expectation and effort on a single partner? There is nothing in couples therapy that would ever suggest such a thing yet when it comes to AS, or any other neuro dx, it is the norm.
Stuck in the box. I think I prefer that to NT. It seems to be more apropriate at times.
(sorry - I have a less than understanding SO too. I'm feeling your same frustration!)