Child just got diagnosed - wondering if I'm on the spectrum

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Mummy_of_Peanut
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29 Sep 2011, 5:46 am

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My 9 year old son was just dx and I dx myself. I had suspected this dx for several years but a doctor and co-worker said no. In a sense I don't see a reason to know because I feel that there is no cure and no hope. Only now I know I'll never get to live in the state I want to move to in my older years. disappointing
I always wondered why the reference section of applications put so much fear into me. I always was bothered that I had no friends or the people that wanted to befriend me were "weirdos". I don't know why as a plain girl I seemed to try to pick the most popular girl to hang out with at work and in school.

I am still trying to recover from the shock and disappointment. Because of the asperger's, I am a slave to my husband. I cannot support myself or my children. I am a misfit toy and I can't even help my children.

Sorry, I am just down right now. I will try to stay here as long as I can for my children. The only solution to this problem is making sure my husband and I have good life insurance policies so that our kids are not homeless one day.


This made me go, 'Wow, not just me'. It's very strange, given that I held down a job in the same place for 11 years, but still had difficulty asking my old boss if she wouldn't mind doing a reference. I've been a full-time mum for the past 6 years and I'm really worried about making my way in the world again. Given that I now have extra responsibilities, stress at work is no longer an option (it should never have been like that anyway).

I've been feeling pretty down over the past few days too, almost weepy, although I usually try to keep a positive attitude. It's all because my daughter's been having a rough time at school and I just want to keep her here with me (home schooling), but that's not an ideal solution either.

If you ever want someone to lend an ear, please feel free to PM me.



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29 Sep 2011, 3:29 pm

I think it's natural after the dx to start wondering. After reading everything I am CONVINCED my brother has AS, there's just no question in my mind. I also recognize a lot of the AS differences in myself, however, I am absolutely sure I don't have AS-at least not the same as my daughter and my brother. I think the main difference is that I can "control" my differences-blend in, fake it, repress my anxieties and inadequacies-while they cannot. I think there is a lot of distinction in that very ability (control). However, I do score Aspie-ish on those quizzes and scored INTJ on the Meyers Briggs, for whatever that's worth.