Maybe the medication he is on is not right for him.
Your second post gave better insight into what is going on. Had I known you already tried "ignoring" the behavior and it escalated I would have not wasted my time going on and on about that (not that Im upset, Im just saying). Since he does, however get upset when you ignore him, what is his reaction if you try to tell him that you love him, cant live without him? that sort of thing....is it the same?
What concerns me is that he has been doing this since he was young which I did not notice in your first post, sorry!
I would consider Bi Polar disorder....My oldest had BP and we think, autism as well....he was more BP than autistic but having them both together was really a challenge. Also he was not diagnosed until he was 12 so when we moved and left his Dad...even though his Dad was abusive this was hard for him. He did good for the first year and then met an older boy who he latched onto and started using drugs. There is a long line of addiction in my family, my Dad (clean when I was 14) my Grandfather (clean in his 20s and became a preacher) and my Great Grandfather who drank himself to death in his early 30's. It skipped a generation, obviously, because my brothers and I do not have this gene but my son did and he became very extreme in his drug use at age 16 when he was injecting meth. He was in and out of juvy, jail and twice in prison, the last time for 18 months. All for petty theft for drugs. He overdosed on August 14th after being clean for two years. He had one needle mark but did not use much heroin for an addict but way too much for someone who had been clean for two years. He also did not have his BP medication in his system so obviously he had stopped taking them which was always dangerous for him. Unfortunately no one got to him in time and he died on his friends bathroom floor. We believe he was in a depression state but he did not want to kill himself. The only time my son talked about killing himself was when he was about 8 and he tried to hang himself with his sheets because he did not want to go to school....this was also not serious, only a call for help.
I watched a documentary not long ago about a boy with BP who was always threatening suicide (more the depressive BP than the manic like my son) by jumping out a window. He finally did so at age 18? (If my memory serves me correctly I think he was in college and home for a holiday).
Anyway, my son was misdiagnosed over and over until I read the book called The Bi Polar Child....I strongly recommend you get this from the library or just buy it and read it. My son also had obsessions with knives and fire. We once found ten various knives under his bed and when he was older he had switch blades and butterfly knives.....he was not violent but liked to throw them and stick them in walls and just to have them. When he was younger he would have very horrible tantrums which he could not control and I would have to hold him and when he was bigger actually sit on him....these lasted sometimes for hours. Sometimes he would swear and spit at me but he would actually come to me, when they started and hug me....sometimes he would say "help me" and he would always tell me he was sorry and I would just hug him and cry....I just didnt know what was wrong and I didnt know how to help him. I remember finding that book in a book store one day and just sitting down on the floor and the more I read the more upset I got and I was crying by the time my Mom, who was with me, found me. People were staring at me but they didnt understand what I had been through. I always say that my son made me a better Mother, I never gave up on him, I always loved him and I would fight like a mother bear for him no matter how horrible he was. I knew that he suffered himself way more than we suffered him. He was exhausting but I can only imagine how it felt for him. Its one of the things I console myself with now.....my son no longer sufferers. I would rather have him here with me, I miss his voice and his ability to always make me laugh even when I was mad. I have to console myself with little things like that because loosing him is so horrible and so painful, its something no parent should ever have to feel. You should never hear the words "your son is dead"! Never!
He was so funny and crazy, like a big kid....and so intelligent, I miss him so much!
Anyway, I hope that your son and you get the help that you need.
Also just so you know, not all BP kids act the same some have more depression and only a bit of mania and some, like my son are mostly Manic and have only some depression which escalated more when he got older. Its actually two different types (I and II). My son was one that thought he could fly and would jump off a roof or out of a tree. He had a lot of scars from stitches but surprisingly never broke a bone! Also the stuff about your son wanting to be a vampire and wanting to go to the moon sound like hyper mania which include delusions and even hallucinations....my son had a little man on his shoulder and he would talk to him. At first I thought he was being silly but he was not. Also since your son was diagnosed with ADHD I assume he has hyper phases which is mania.....my son was hyper X 200!
13 Dec 2011, 8:56 pm
) have been the biggest problems for my son. Summer time when he's home with me things go so much better.
