Getting a 6 yo Aspie to talk to his Mom

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I had one guardian years ago who was really good with me like that. I hated talking about my day as it was just meaningless chit chat to me and therefore pointless.

Instead, he asked me to draw my day with a picture/s. Sometimes he divided the page into 8 boxes or sometimes more and had me draw a cartoon comic strip of my day (quick and easy, but fun, plus he can just draw stick people if he wants to).

Sometimes (depending on my mood) I would just draw one picture that was very artistic but complex and life-like although it was still emotionally based.

I think he found out more about my school and my days than any set of guardians previously just by that method alone. Once I started drawing, sometimes I wanted to do more than one as well. you might have more success with this method than by talking with him.

Last edited by Kjas on 19 Apr 2012, 9:58 am, edited 1 time in total.

I think how you get to the information is going to vary by kid. It sounds like some really good suggestions here.

I would like to point out that we realize from the kid perspective, it seems pointless. From the parent perspective, especially after reading on wrong planet how many adult Aspies went through absolute hell in school, there is a lot we need to know. We need to know it from the child's perspective and then an adult perspective so we can get the child needed changes and then help translate some things at are just misunderstood and so causing problems.

In some cases, It takes incredible dectetive work to make school a good place for our kids. The kid isn't going to do that and the teachers won't either.

Hmm reminds me of when I was a kid......I found myself wondering what I was being punished for many times at school, and I guess never could live up to what was expected perfectly. In fact some teachers even contributed to bullying because of this, hopefully your kid is not having that issue......But yeah its very possible he either does not understand the expectations, or for whatever reason cannot live up to them. I mean say they had a 'no fidgeting in your seat at all rule.' well there is no way I could do that even at the age of 22....so maybe he is misunderstanding some things.....and maybe there are some expectations he can't live up to. The teacher certainly needs to be made aware of that.

I have this issue with my son (6), too.
I try to ask him very simple but specific questions, which helps some.
"Did you play with someone at recess?" instead of "How was recess?"
Still, it's hard to ask questions about things you don't know happened. I know he had recess, so I can ask about that. I don't know if a kid shoved him in the hallway, so I can't ask. Just asking him if anyone was unkind to him will not get a proper response, as he doesn't usually know when people are being unkind.

I really wish that this was the answer. I spend upwards of 5 hours a week at the school. I communicate daily with the classroom teacher and the resource room teacher and at least weekly with the OT, the SLP and the counselor. I do really like the idea of doing a journal at home. I hadn't thought about making this an activity that we do side by side. That might work with him if he sees me doing it too.