Kailuamom wrote:
It would never in a million years occur to me that my kids wouldn't know I was just trying to be close to them when I show interest in their life.
It would never in a million years have occured to me the reasons behind such questions and the importance of the information (gained from these questions) to a NT parent.
As an aside, I find I miss the underlying intention behind many social/relationship things so fail to engage in the social protocol properly, understanding the purpose enables me to make sense of the situation, to work with the expectation/protocol better and also give the other person what they need. An example is I got no emotional benefit from things like hugs, so only began to understood why people wanted to hug or touch me when I got an explanation like you parents are giving me now, since then I have relaxed a bit about people wanting to hug/touch me as I can now rationally work out what they are trying to communicate through doing so, and realise their intent is postive.
momsparky wrote:
It's also not just about how you're doing, but about sharing who you are: the things you consider to be important about your day can tell a lot about you as a person. Us parents raised our kids knowing they are different from us, but not knowing exactly how that's going to turn out. These little daily check-ins are a way of finding out more about who our kids are turning out to be.
I think you just pointed out something very important that I had not yet identified - I was raised being expected to be similar to my parents - but I am not similar....Hmm, something to think about.
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20 Apr 2012, 6:10 pm
