I need help fast
24 Aug 2012, 2:01 pm
First of all, do you think humor would work? I found this while googling and thought it might help. It might require a lengthy discussion about how the various people in the video are feeling, since it isn't a one-to-one correspondence - this would work for my son to spark a discussion, but not for other kids I know: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qGI48YcGDnU
Somebody just posted this cell phone app on the media list: http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/pictello ... 58008?mt=8 Basically, from what I understand, it allows you to construct a social story using pictures from your phone; as you go through the social story it will read the words you typed in. Seems like you might be able to do it on your own without the app. It doesn't have to be exact or complex, but if you get a picture of your daughter's face when she is annoyed, you can make the one-to-one connection about not annoying her.
You could also do stick figures.
Google images can be a great resource. I typed in some of your descriptions and got these images:
"trip" and "accident" got me this: http://www.illustrationsof.com/433070-r ... lustration (good sad face on the girl)
and these stick figures: http://www.kidclipart.net/free_kid_clip ... -3138.html
http://kidclipart.net/free_kid_clip_art ... -0933.html
"bullying," even though it's not what's happening - but the ideas on physical bullying are similar - got me (sorry the image clip is all that's available)
this
and this and another: http://www.elpasotexas.gov/library/refe ... lipart.jpg,
I found this under "annoying" http://www.clipartguide.com/_pages/0511 ... -4813.html
This is a social story about bullying that may offer some images or ideas: http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v83/j ... iagram.png
I also liked this for the facial expression of the girl reacting to "nice" touch http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-FGgmlHfeWSw/T ... _image.jpg
Basically, you just take any images that are convenient for you and string them together - first in a sequence of the behavior that is happening now, and second in the sequence you want to have happen (providing a replacement behavior is important.)
Another thought about the kissing - have you taught him to blow kisses?
24 Aug 2012, 2:42 pm
Thanks Momsparky for all that information. I am going to take a look at it when the house quiets down.
I totally forgot that there are times when I ask my son if he is a big boy or a bay and he will insist he is a baby. There are times though when he insist that he is a big boy. It all depends on what going on. I am really begining to wonder if we are experiencing some sibling rivalry. In the morning he will come into my room and insist on laying in our bed. Usually by then I have his sister in bed nursing her. He will try and stuff himself between his sister and me. I have to put one of them on one side and the other on the other side. But then, he sitll wants me to hug him and look at him.
If his father is playing with his sister, he will come over and he wants to be played with in the same manner. I thought he would have outgrown it a liitle but this competition is still strong. It doesn't help that his sister is also very territorial. We try to give them each some individual time, but honestly we spend most of our time all together. They are all so young, it's really hard for them to understand why I can't ignore the others. I think my 6 yo gets the least attention though which is why I take him with me sometimes when i run errands.
25 Aug 2012, 11:21 pm
I have been trying to put him on timeout on the sofa but he then turns it into playtime. He will start laughing and then say, "don't laugh, it's not funny". I am not sure if it's because he knows he shouldn't laugh or if he has heard me say it in the past. He seems to actually like timeout to a certain extent. He likes the attention, since I am sitting there, making sure he stays put and physically putting him back on the sofa. But, sometimes he gets tired of me putting him back in timeout and will try and get up and gets cranky that I wont let him move. Then, a minute later, he's back to laughing. He timeouts are for 3 mins, but the clock starts once he calms down.
I forgot to mention that when he bumps or hits his sister, I tell him to tell her sorry and give her a hug and he happily does it. He still tries to hit her if she cries but we usually stop him before he succeeds. He will look at us and laugh while he tries to get to her to hit her so I know it's not sensory. Plus, if he is doing something else, he somtimes ignores her when she cries out. He also will screem to get me to tell him not to. When I ignore him, he reminds me that I should say "No screaming".
I am not comfortable putting him in his room for timeout since he doesn't want to be there if it's not time to take a nap or bedtime. He sleeps pretty well so I don't want him to think negatively about being in his room. I just want to get it through to him that I am serious and he is under punishment. Has anyone been in this position before? I would love to hear what worked for you.
I realize he is almost 4, but this is fairly normal behavior for a toddler. Have you explained to him why he isn't to bump into her? I would probably say "No no, you can't bump into your little sister because she might fall and get hurt. Can you be a good big brother please and not do that?"
And I would try to catch him before he actually does it, scold him, and redirect him. I've used the preemptive method with great success with the family dogs when they were about to lunge at one of the cats, and with a few toddlers in the family.
