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18 Nov 2012, 7:21 am

ASDMommyASDKid wrote:
I am in a snarky mood today, and a couple of threads made me think about the bad advice we get sometimes from experts. What advice have you gotten that experts insist will help your child, but don't work or sometimes don't even make sense? You can post general things, specific things, silly things, funny things serious things or a mix.


The paediatrician dropping heavy hints about my home-educated AS daughter being better off in school - despite the fact that she was previously in school and was crying every night because she hated it so much. She lost weight through the stress and lack of supervision at lunchtime meaning she left a lot of food, got ill constantly through the stress, broke her arm there and they didn't even call me letalone take her to hospital to be checked.


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26 Nov 2012, 3:21 pm

I love it when we are at the store and someone trys to engage in conversation with my son and when he wont respond, I tell them he is verbally delayed and they say "well you might want to get him some help" or "thats not normal for a 3 year old to not talk" .....no REALLY?!?!? I had no *$&&% clue!! I just want to scream at them. Ya know we wouldnt have this convo if you minded your own business and didnt try to talk to a three year old YOU DONT EVEN KNOW!! !



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26 Nov 2012, 4:32 pm

Jaze wrote:
I love it when we are at the store and someone trys to engage in conversation with my son and when he wont respond, I tell them he is verbally delayed and they say "well you might want to get him some help" or "thats not normal for a 3 year old to not talk" .....no REALLY?!?!? I had no *$&&% clue!! I just want to scream at them. Ya know we wouldnt have this convo if you minded your own business and didnt try to talk to a three year old YOU DONT EVEN KNOW!! !


OMG you might want to get him some help..... the cheek of it!! 8O As if a complete stranger who has seen him once knows better than you, grrrrr!



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26 Nov 2012, 4:47 pm

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For my older son I was told to spend more time reading to him. Big sigh.


I will say, my 3yo, reading to him really jumpstarted his language (as well as showing him that there was some advantages to communicating). But then again, my son has a significant communication delay.



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27 Nov 2012, 10:12 am

"He will grow out of it."

I hear this one from family and teachers a lot. Before he was 11, I heard this a lot. Then all of a sudden, I hear "maybe he needs some extra help, but I am sure he will grow out of it." ARGHHH!

Whenever, I hear this, I want to shout "No, he will not outgrow this. He has Asperger's. It is a part of him. Accept him for who he is." This is particularly true of the social faux pauxs and emotional sensitivity. "He will not just wake up one day and "get it." He has to learn it. So stop expecting things from him that noone has bothered to teach him. Accept that he will grin and somehow intuitively get long division after just one example becoming bored at your having to go over and over it for the other children, and apply some of that tenacity to social life lessons for him."