Aspie Brother issue....please help

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My husband and daughter both lack a sense of urgency and this often frustrates me in situations where we are running late and need to prioritise tasks in order to get somewhere, ie not start doing things that can be done anytime! However we have not yet had a situation like you describe, but I suspect my daughter would react similarly :/

For planned appointments:

It helps if someone tells you that you are supposed to be somewhere at a certain time. Then you have to figure out how long it will take you (allowing for traffic and weather and such) and know when you should leave. That is the easy part. The harder part is when you have to simultaneously get ready and still keep track of time, so that you leave when you are supposed to. Some people are more distractable then others and have real problems with this. Even people who are normally good at this can get sidetracked by other people. if you all have to get ready together as a family, say. I just make it a point to look at the clock regularly, but sometimes it is still hard for me when I also have to coordinate what other family members do in addition to what I have to do.

For emergency/nonscheduled situations:

You have to recognize or be told that it is urgent, despite being unplanned. Like if you have to run from someone like in the original post, or evacuate because of weather or a fire. Then you just have to act fast as opposed to looking at time. The hardest thing can be when you do not recognize the emergency exists in the first place, or if you and someone else disagree as to the urgency of something. Somethings are unplanned but not emergencies but if you want to participate you have to hurry.

Time management is not one of my best skills.