More compulsive lying about school work

Post Reply New Topic

Wow, that's a good one!

OK, so, back to homework: DS has just found out the hard way that if he doesn't do his homework he gets an F (a middle school thing) and THEN we make him do it anyway. We set this up from day 1 of middle school...it's do it now and get the grade you deserve, or do it later and get an F (which somehow matters to him without freaking him out - who knew?) DS is somewhat stressed out this week because he got behind in some stuff, and we are making him do it over, PLUS double-checking that it has been done and keeping him on task.

All of this wasn't necessarily his fault - he has executive function failings and the teachers are supposed to be signing off on his assignment book and they aren't. However, I am setting the expectation that we do the work, even if it is late and we don't get anything for the trouble of doing it: the rule is that the work gets done. So far, it's working (I think in part due to some jumps he's made in maturity and not entirely due to this technique.)

Momtosparky, As far as doing the homework for school the first time or at home for an F we try to do that too, with a 50/50 result out of it id say. I think its a good policy we are going to stick to. It stinks your ds teachers are not signing the assignment books. I am going to try to set this up with my son now too as he has proven he needs it. I realize its inconvenient for the teachers after awhile, but if its what it takes to keep a kid on track its got to be done. I hope we don't run into the same problem although I am sort of expecting it. Our meeting with learning assistants and my ds school work issues is going to be monday morning and Im hoping to put alot of new rules into place ( wish me luck). You would think they cant just let them float along, lost when they need this stuff (planners) checked, where do they draw the line for letting an unorganized kid fall on his face? Everyone's advice on this thread has been very helpful and I thank you all. I see this as an ongoing struggle for us, Im sure I will be posting more about it in the very near future

I can relate to this. "I think the teachers think we are crazy, and frankly, I don't care." <---- love it.