17 Apr 2014, 7:44 pm
17 Apr 2014, 7:47 pm
17 Apr 2014, 8:04 pm
postcards57 wrote:
Sounds like a great idea!
I didn't quite have this, but I did have floor-to-ceiling shelves in the family room with baskets for different types of toys. That made it possible to have them sort things and keep track of them, and for me to put certain toys on the top shelves and not worry about them dumping out the ones they could reach. (For me it was a safety issue as much as a neatness one; I didn't want the littler ones getting into toys with little pieces.)
I think you should present it as a way of organizing things, and see if they want to be involved in the setting up or arrangement of the baskets. I personally wouldn't go too far on the reward system, but depending on your child and how it goes it could be more or less sophisticated. For example, they could "check out" more than one or two toys to play with for a shorter period of time, or they could have them out for longer periods of time as a reward for returning them on time.
This might work well with an actual library program in the summer as well... Our libraries had reading clubs where they were given stickers for each book they read or had read to them.S Since the library has clear rules about how many books you can have, and for how long, it might reinforce the system.
My opinion would be to be flexible about using the system if they had friends over or in special circumstances, and I would not want to include the special things baskets in the library.
J.
I didn't quite have this, but I did have floor-to-ceiling shelves in the family room with baskets for different types of toys. That made it possible to have them sort things and keep track of them, and for me to put certain toys on the top shelves and not worry about them dumping out the ones they could reach. (For me it was a safety issue as much as a neatness one; I didn't want the littler ones getting into toys with little pieces.)
I think you should present it as a way of organizing things, and see if they want to be involved in the setting up or arrangement of the baskets. I personally wouldn't go too far on the reward system, but depending on your child and how it goes it could be more or less sophisticated. For example, they could "check out" more than one or two toys to play with for a shorter period of time, or they could have them out for longer periods of time as a reward for returning them on time.
This might work well with an actual library program in the summer as well... Our libraries had reading clubs where they were given stickers for each book they read or had read to them.S Since the library has clear rules about how many books you can have, and for how long, it might reinforce the system.
My opinion would be to be flexible about using the system if they had friends over or in special circumstances, and I would not want to include the special things baskets in the library.
J.
Thank you for your thoughtful reply.
This organization sounds a lot like what we have now (before the library), except I've been lax about ensuring that the things go back each time. The infrastructure is very well organized, like items each in a labeled basket, etc. But on top if that, is chaos...
I'm hoping the library (in a separate room) would be enough to have us all be more successful.
I'm actual very not fond of rewards and kept away from typical behaviorism-type parenting strategies. ...until my kids begged for them (and then I still didn't do them for a long time). Long story short, I involve them in any reward systems we set up, which I find acceptable.
We started setting it up today after they finished their homework. My daughter (4, NT) was very excited about it right away. She likes doing any project with me, really. My son (7, AS) was pretty neutral about it. I didn't require either to help me set it up (and it will take a few days). After awhile, my son decided he wanted to be an employee of the toy library and set up a spreadsheet on the computer for recording checked out toys. We have only moved about 1/4 of the toys there so far, but they enjoyed checking items out and developing the plan and setting it up. So far, it's all good.
I have a tendency to make things unnecessarily complicated, so I should probably try to avoid that. (I hadn't planned on making a spreadsheet to record everything...but I'll let them do it if they want
).
17 Apr 2014, 8:07 pm
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17 Apr 2014, 8:45 pm
kraftiekortie wrote:
I'm sorry, Screen Name--I was being silly.
it's just that there's lots of positive virtues within you.
With the tokens, the kids could also learn the value of money.
it's just that there's lots of positive virtues within you.
With the tokens, the kids could also learn the value of money.
Well, thank you.
And I like the bag over my head. I'm not ready to be rid of it.
18 Apr 2014, 8:43 am
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