Being bullied

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Thanks again to all, kept Sam away from school for a few days during which time my husband went in and spoke at length to headteacher and SENCO.

He made it quite clear that Sam does have special needs and that they were not meeting them, and that in the time he had off of school he wanted all involved parties spoken to.

I expected them to be defensive but actually they agreed with our appraisal of the situation. They have spoken to his class as a whole and also individually to a select few one to one. When Sam went back to school he had the opportunity to tell them how they were making him feel. Hes happier now but I know it wont last.

KimJ, I find your comments very helpful and calming so thanks for that, I will get on Amazon and look for the book you recommend, and Erlyrissa, although I am a little confused by some of the stuff you say I can see its from the heart and I will definitely try Cubs, so thanks.

I've got to say again how great it is to be able to be able to share this stuff with people that believe me, understand, empathise and can offer practical advice. Maybe there is a light at the end of the tunnel for my boy, or at least a map to get to it!! !.

9 year old... organinc chemistry? .... is there a planet other than Earth and WPlanet I am unaware of?

a kid can't make the association that Carbon can be replaced with silicon... your kid should have learnt something which could be SHARED with peers ... maybe some social skills can be appropriated while still learning PRACTICAL sunject matter at that age.

...maybe learning more about dinousars/plant/animals will be something that is shareable with peers.

Erlyrisa, you should listen to your own advice about sharing abilities and social skills. You are coming off as way too harsh, judgmental, and negative!

Some kids are precocious. My son knows more about history than your average adult. Way more, in fact. He picked it all up on his own from library books and the history channel. If geek's son (daughter?) found some textbooks lying around, I wouldn't be surprised if he does indeed understand a lot that your average person wouldn't about organic chemistry.

Botton line... these kids need to feel happy and not have their self-esteem crushed. The map to how to get there has to be improvised. Bullying should not ever be part of that map, even if it means taking detours off the beaten path.

How is organic chemistry... or history going to help you get friends....

....maybe topics like Aeroplanes (get them models)
or
hmmm one for the girls?

huh I dunno .. maybe being versed in one of the Boy topics could get them to be friendly with the boys (I remmeber a gril that like skatebaords) - she went to engineering school with me... she wasn't butch, she was actually quit feminine and proper. (she never really had friends in school either, but by being interested in what the boys like, she gained friendship with them)

You see the problem with ubber geeks, is that each one has thier own field--mking it even more difficult to share thier knowledgs for interaction on the social level.