androbot01 wrote:
rockandrollqueen, sounds like you've got your hands full. I had a rocky relationship with my mother when I was at your daughter's age. (We've since found common ground and remained close.)
I notice you mentioned that she likes to sleep a lot and this could possibly be because of laziness. I would suggest it is out of exhaustion. Dealing with the required social interactions of school and all the sensory stimuli is overwhelming. Is there any chance you could homeschool her for her last year of high school? Taking that stress out of her life might reduce her angst. One way or another, though, she will be an adult soon and she is going to have to learn to take care of herself. Because your relationship with your daughter is so volatile, I would suggest she move out on her own as soon as she is old enough. But she should start preparing for that now. Maybe saving money for a room. How does she do in academics? For me I loved to learn but I hated the environment of school.
DW_a_mom wrote:
...That isn't always easy to do with ASD kids; they accept a lot less on face value than NT kids, and don't usually have a natural respect for anyone (it has to be earned).
Is that wrong? I have a polite attitude with others, but I don't really respect anyone unless they do something noteworthy.
Not right or wrong, just different.
And you are right about the exhaustion. Getting through a "normal" day is so much more difficult - and, thus, tiring - for someone with ASD; it takes so much more out of them. Someone once compared it to trying to spend your entire workday with someone running their nails along a chalkboard. Imagine.
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Mom to an amazing young adult AS son, plus an also amazing non-AS daughter. Most likely part of the "Broader Autism Phenotype" (some traits).
09 Apr 2016, 8:06 pm
