I need some advice, my friends..

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I am soo sorry to hear about your lose.

Once again I want to thank you all for your support and kind words and thoughts. Time for a brief update. The memorial service went well, I had been asked to say a few words so I was not by Z's side during the service. I did keep my eye on him and he carried himself very well. He sat with a younger cousin, about 4 or 5, she laid her head on Z's lab and he sat quietly stroking her hair and speaking softly to her. Later he told me, of his own volition, "I told her it was Okay, BG is in a better place." Two small meltdowns Sunday but he regrouped and went about his business peacefully. S is coping well, has shed some tears and is dealing with her first experience with death. Cor is talking, which is very good, has had some minor bouts with her depression, "not ready to deal with it all of it yet" but is holding up better than I expected. I'll be back later, thanks again.

Hi Im sorry to hear this, my advice as an spie is that feelings are confusing and when its cxconfusing your upset when I was z age I used to write potry my parents tel me it was reavling perhaps you could suggest Z write portystories or do somwe sprt of creative work perhaps paint etc and you could look at it and talk togeather about it, I agree with everything needs o be factual
chin up it will pass.

Thanks Hopalong, that is a great suggestion. I am goin to owe the kids some art lessons this summer for making the Honor roll at school all year. We've already started with sketching and perspective and I may work that into the sketches. The real funbegins when I break out the oils, acrylics and watercolors.

Yep, Im doing an art course at the mo, but my problem with art is that I cant intterupt what a paiming is about or its mood but I like learning about diffrent painters nad othertypes of artists for example I have read a bit about surat and I think he might of been an aspie.
but my stregth lies in writing it allows NT's to see how I feel evan if I can explain it or describe the meaning /thought process behind it. But also importaly how are you and your partner doing??

Don't worry too much if how you see a piece of art differs from the way an NT sees it, after all your perception of the world is supposedly different also. That is not to say ot is wrong, perhaps you see things in a truer light. I paint, and because I am slightly color blind others see what I have painted differently than I do. Do they see more correctly than I do? I don't know and I don't care, I had fun doing the painting.

If writing helps us understand you better then by all means keep it up. Without understanding this whole world is doomed anyway. I am a bit of a cynic.

Cor and I are doing fairly well.we are sad, mostly because we miss BG. I wonder sometimes if mourning a lost loved one isn't in large part self-pity. Cor is clinically depressed, a firm dx, and having her mother die fuels the problem. She is talking about it though and that is very important for her. I listen, hold her, and try to help her deal with her grief. I have a goal which helps me deal with my personal grief, and that is to help Cor and Z and S come to terms with theirs. Thank you for asking.