Overwhelmed Mom

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Suz-I know what you mean about other people not seeing that anything is wrong with your son. I get so frusterated because he acts fine at school. His teacher has noticed his anxiety but he hides his depression pretty well at school. I know what you mean about the bumps and bruises. My 7 year old NT daughter can handle things and stick up for herself, but my son is so fragile in some ways. It's hard to know when to let things go and when to try to fix them. I called one of the mothers of a boy who was teasing my son at school. She and her husband were so wonderful and the teasing has stopped! I told my son that I wouldn't always be able to get results like this, so parents won't care.

My son was always interested in death from the age of three on. It was strange because he's never had anyone close to him die. The suicidal thoughts are heartbreaking and I hope your son never has to deal with them. I just want someone to figure out a way to make him stop feeling like that, but I feel like we are at the beginning of a very long road. We are taking him to be evaluated next week and we are hoping that will shed some light on everything.

Good luck getting help for your son. Thanks for the advice about following my heart and instinct. I needed to hear that.

Sorry....I just realized that I typed "so parents won't care" when I meant to say "SOME parents won't care" oooops!

Woah, that is so cool that you called the parents and they reacted so well. What a relief. You are advocating for your son and that is the best thing ever! No, people won't always react the way we want them too, but sadly that is a life lesson. No matter how other people react your son will always know that you'll do whatever you can to make things right for him and as easy as possible.

My son does have focus issues at school and gets easily upset about things not going his way--according to his teacher he has good days and bad with that. As I said I'm lucky that so far there hasn't been any teasing that I'm aware of. There is a web site a friend of mine just told me about today--her husband went to hear this guy speak and was totally inspired and they now want to incorporate his stuff into their lives. They have a 5 year old with high functioning autism. I know nothing about it myself, I've just looked it over and it looks interesting. It does seem to deal a lot with bullying and teasing, maybe it will be a help to you? Here's the web site: http://www.thechildtoday.com/ I'm going to try to find out more info from my friend about it all.

My son hasn't dealt with death on a personal level either. He's always asking about people dying, getting very sad over relatives that have died that he's never even met! It's so hard to know what to say when he worries about me...of course I can't tell him it will never happen! I just try to keep it light and tell him more than likely I'll be around a long, long time. Seems like such a trite response, tho.

I'm so glad you are getting help and trying to get to the bottom of it all. It's all you can do! Just remember how far ahead of the game you are already, acknowledging it and doing what you can. I'm also glad that my words were helpful--as you know with stuff like this, one often feels like there is never the 'right' thing to say! Take good care.