I don't want to talk about my son, and that's alienating.

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I feel you should write about whatever you want, but if you want to please both a little, you could write something about your experience parenting while on the spectrum.

Recently a friend told me, he has talked to a doctor. The doctor said, in her 60 years of working with autism, only ONE child got any benefit from medication and he was a 14 year old who requested it himself. So the doctor was 100% against medication. This, is coming from a doctor. Are you a doctor?

Take for instance ADHD. My son was so hyperactive, that he couldn't stay still at all: he bounced around the house like a ping-pong ball. His attention span was like 2 second, 3 at most. Anyone would go the medication route, right? People go the medication route because they have no clue about autism. To me, those 2 or 3 seconds were plenty enough to develop my son.

http://wrongplanet.net/forums/viewtopic.php?t=368990

Anxiety is even simpler. I just don't understand why people would take prescription drugs for anxiety, at all.

http://www.eikonabridge.com/anxiety.pdf

Behavior problems? Violence?

http://www.eikonabridge.com/fun_and_facts.pdf

People use drugs for autism, because they don't understand autism. Look at Helen Keller: she was very violent, before she learned to communicate via hand spelling. Her only way of communication was tactile. Was she violent because she had a psychological disorder? I mean, what good would it have been to send Helen Keller to behavioral treatment? What good would it have been to give anti-psychotic drugs to Helen Keller? Nahh... Helen Keller needed none of those. The one and one only thing that Helen Keller needed was development. And she had one and only one channel of communication: hand spelling. Anything else would have been bulllshit. The same is true with autism. Instead of addressing the communication issue, we beat around the bushes, getting nowhere.



You use drugs on children from early on, and what happens next is these children start to look down on themselves. Their creativity goes down the tubes. They start to think that they cannot possibly function without drugs. They view themselves as being defective. They get used to playing the victim card. All while having the most powerful brains in the world. They are brain-washed their entire life that being neurotypical is better. They think they need to fit in, but they can't fit in. So, they end up with low-end jobs, if at all. They become parasites of the society. All while having the most powerful brains in the world.

This is the scene from "Saving Private Ryan" about a coward. He had all the ammunition he needed. Just not the courage to fight. I apologize, I am not talking about anyone in particular. I am talking about the general situation of what happens to the majority of autistic people out there. This is the image that I always have in mind, when I see them giving up on their lives.

I'm not going to read that or your other threads if they are full of more of this nonsense. Stop telling people they shouldn't take meds, you are not a doctor.

When people talk about their children, it isn't just about describing the child. It usually involves discussion of how the child has changed YOU. Because having children does that, it changes you, and changes how you perceive the world. There should be a lot of material there that can be mined. Perhaps that is why your group seemed so eager to press you in that direction.

Wow! There's a lot here.

I am so sorry that I haven't responded to everyone's post. I got distracted by real life stuff, but I will say this;

My son is the reason I first came on to this forum. My son is the reason that I have taken efforts to meet other autistic people in person. His mother has AS and I have NLD, so I have to consider that he might have an autism spectrum disorder himself, (though he's too young for me to know). It's just that meeting other autistic people has been a story onto its self that I consider worth writing.

That said I will talk about my son, and how he has changed me, but that will be done in a way that makes sense to me. Thank you all for your responses.