Triangular_Trees wrote:
If you didn't give him the time limit when you told him you could use, then you betrayed his trust in a pretty deep way by choosing the checkout yourself.
We like things to be exactly as stated. As you might have seen elsewhere we typically don't lie, and we often expect others to be just as honest. By choosing the checkout after you told him he could, you were in effect lying to him, thereby shattering his image of you as someone who could be trusted.Alot of aspies would see it like that, or would have when they were younger.
Exactly. I am an aspie and would have reacted the same as this child. It's pointless getting into power struggles over something like that. It would have been better to let him go to the checkout he wanted instead of worrying about "boundaries".
I'm also very indecisive and was far worse when I was little if someone gave me a choice. I preferred not to be put on the spot like that because most of the time I just couldn't decide.
I soon learned to distrust adults as they often made promises and then went back on them (perhaps this was influenced by my very literal thinking at the time but adults are notorious for breaking promises even apart from that).
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05 Nov 2007, 5:59 am
