5 y/o son's separation anxiety

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Right. It may well be. And I know I've said things that a lot of mothers find difficult to swallow. It's a very emotional and personal subject.

I still maintain that as a general rule, with most kids, this is a matter that is solved very simply and is not a sign of some special need or psychological abnormality.

Its not that uncommon for any child who is just starting some type of school. A child who hasn't been to preschool, or had an outside babysitter may be crying every day of kindergarten august-November because he misses his mommy. He might spend the bulk of the rest of the year asking the teacher when he can go home.While those who have been cared for by someone outside the home since they were two will rarely have any instances of separationg anxiety

The longer you wait to separate him from yourself the harder it will be for him. Yes you could homeschool him but if he's this way at 5, just think how much worse it will be if you wait until college for him to regularly spend the days apart from you? is that an issue you really want to handle with an 18 year old?

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Last edited by Mommamo on 18 Nov 2007, 2:53 am, edited 1 time in total.

But I think kids are just as entitled to privacy in the toilet as adults. I know of some kids (myself included) who would only have used doorless toilets for number 1's. The hinges must have been very flimsy - the schools should have invested in proper hinges.

When I started first grade, there was a little boy who used to cry and run away every day. After a couple of weeks of that, the sisters called his parents in and suggested he wasn't emotionally mature enough to start school yet. He was quite young for the year too. He was kept home for another 12 months and coped better the second time around.

If it isn't a legal requirement to send a child to school until they are 6, it might well be worth keeping them home another year. I also think if a child is still very distressed for long periods after a couple of weeks, there are other issues that need addressing eg. bullying, kid is scared of the teacher, doesn't understand school routines etc.

I know of one child that only went to the bathroom in the laundry basket in the closet because he parents wouldn't let her close the door the bathroom when she used the toilet

mommamo, the situation you described doesn't sound like this child has separation anxiety. It sounds as if he is an environment he finds hostile. Rather than homeschool him, you should try a different school. Though Montessouri schools can be great for aspies a lot would be completely terrified by the learn your own way, at your own pace idea instead of being given set instructions as to how to do everything and when to do them