Help ! I think my child is possessed.

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My son did stuff like that. Except for things going into the toilet. He didn't have access to the toilet as a toddler because we kept out-of-reach locks on all the doors. Locking him out of certain rooms and locking him into the house as a whole. We had to remove a bathroom door and anything in that room to prevent him from locking himself in.
I would certainly not allow any access to anything that could be ingested and hurt him.

I agree fully with everything that Juliette says. We don't give drugs but introducing structure changed our son entirely.

Thanks everyone.

I really appreciate your answers.

It's another day over here and thankfully I'm back at work. That might not be a great thing because it means tat my poor wife will need to cope without me and she's much more likely to smack and shout than me.

I truly regret the taping thing - I didn't know what else to do.

Of course, today with a clearer head I can see what I should have done - why I can't think in the heat of the moment is beyond me.

Looking at it all now, I can see the problems more clearly. We're starting a knockdown and rebuild project and are packing to move. That, together with the holiday (change of routine) are probably upsetting both boys.

It's awful when you can't see things from their perspective.

so thanks again. everyone.

Although I don't have as good advice as the others here, I just wanted to say that I have a lot of respect for you Gavin.

You seem willing to seek help, willing to learn, and willing to admit your mistakes.
It takes a really good person to do all that... I think so anyway.

Most of the advice I see here sounds really good, even though I am not in a position of relating to these issues myself.
I still feel like many of the things said here could be applied by NT's to their NT children as well...
it all just sounds like good parenting to me.

I applaud all of you who struggle through these issues and have the strength to step back, watch, and learn about your children.

Kudos to you all!

Hello Gavin,

I feel your frustration - I have days like that.

On those days when my husband gets home from work and asks me 'How was your day', I just tell him, 'You have 3 sons who are still alive which is a miracle. That's all you need to know'.

I don't have any advice to add to what others have said. It sounds as if you have worked out what was stressing your son.

Helen

P.S. My 4 year old son managed to put another 2 toilet rolls in the toilet yesterday and today (to add to the 3 he put down the toilet last week). Grrrrrrrrr!

We moved accross the country...twice...after E was born. What worked best for escalating behavior was to create a daily routine that included a lot of exercise, and to create a safe, non-punishment spot. When we see an outbreak coming: increased tension, little disobediences, etc., we put E in his safe spot. He can have toys and whatnot, but he can't come out until he has "gotten it together" which means both he and the parent on duty agree that he is able to follow directions and avoid destruction.

The more often we've caught the behavior before it starts, the less often he's escalated to the point that the safe spot was needed.

At times when he's already in mid-meltdown, we wrap him in a blanket or our arms and carry him to the safe spot. He can "escape" easily, but we just pick him up and carry him back until he calms down enough to stay there.

I feel your pain!

Woke up this morning and was getting ready for work.

I noticed that during the night, our son had gotten up, pulled the drain plug out of the bathroom sink, used pencils to draw all over the sink, then thrown all the pencils down the drain. I'm partially deaf so I have an excuse not to hear him. Funny that my wife missed him though - probably exhaustion.

I fished out the pencils but it's gonna take some cleaning. It made me doubly glad to be going to work - and leaving before he makes an appearance.

My parents are going to take him for a few days, so hopefully they'll be able to exert a bit more positive influence.

Actually I shouldn't grumble about my husband. He is giving me the ultimate gift: a 3 week holiday all by myself!!

He has taken holiday leave to look after our 3 sons during their school holiday!

On Monday 7th January I am off to Europe (Portugal, Spain, France and United Kingdom) while he stays at home.

Gavin, maybe you should let your wife have a holiday by herself as a gift!

Helen

hello i totally agree with what Smelena said about taking them out of school. usually when they have meltdowns it's cause of being overloaded. (like at school or work, it's usually cause of overworking, anxiety, bored. or pissed about being bullied, etc ) i'm an adult with aspergers,anxiety,adhd,add traits. I guess it's different when your child, for me here was an example of my melt downs.

as an adult. as of now bright lights are painful, and usually at night well i'm overloaded (i end up having some kind of light synthesis effect) i sleep 12+ hours a day, with constant panic attacks and i have major anxiety attacks around strangers.

as a child, for me meltdowns would come, when someone ends up bullying me, or i get a bad grade on a test, or just dont give a s**t (bored about the school work) i wouldnt go as far as your child, but i would start crying for no reason, or banging on the tables, or laughing at someone who jammed there finger in the car door.

for me as an adult, being by myself, or playing computer games, watching tv is the best way to calm down. but as a child i would have to say when he starts acting up take him out of school for a day and take him to the beach if you can, or get him a video game system, and let him play games. usually a melt down usually happens when your child is upset about something... such as being in a room with thousands of people in a concert, or the phone ringing constantly, or tv is turned on, while i'm trying to do something else, really annoys me.

Yes, I wouldn't have been able to cope alone at home with a child who showed really challenging behaviours. Much as it would have made me feel guilty later on, I probably would have got to the stage of smacking them hard. I would have got into major panic attacks because of not being able to stop the kid from wrecking things and yelling.

Coping with work would be easier in comparison (providing it was not a really unsuitable job or with people who were hard to get along with).