My child constantly lies

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in my earlier post, i didn't mean to insinuate that hitting had anything to do with computer usage or taking away computer usage...............i guess i didn't write it how i meant it..........what i meant is that in an incident where your child has hit someone else, you should just remove him from the situation......i really didn't mean that you should take away computer use if your child has hit someone. there's no corellation there......

I've bumped this thread because I felt it was quite useful. Our son will frequently tell lies, or mainly, more accurately small lies or fibs. I think he does that because he wants to avoid the consequences of telling the truth, not because of over-concrete thinking, although this obviously applies to some ASD kids - for them you need to be exact and precise in your questions.

I think I do try and trap him sometimes as another poster said, and that is unhelpful. I note that DW-a-mom said that explaining the tangled web arising from a lie, and her child understanding those consequences was what was needed for her son to stop lying. Our son (now seventeen) does not have that insight. The issues with lying have been explained to him on many occasions, he has sometimes been punished etc. But, as another poster noted with her child, our son gets upset for a short while and then continues as if nothing has happened - until the next fib. It is very difficult to see how we can get him to understand why he should not lie. He lives in his own little world, does not understand how the world works, simply wants to avoid doing things he should not, and so does not seem to have the insight that is needed to see that lying is generally counterproductive.