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SteveBorg
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16 Apr 2012, 9:00 pm

Aoife wrote:
Sounds like me (when I was 12) :D

My advice:
List
Schedule
Help
No nagging
Honest talk about what will happen if she doesn't live within the "norms"
If you can make it more fun, try to. Could you do simple hygiene (hair brushing, tooth brushing, etc.) together and talk about something she's interested in? Or make it like a game?

Most of all: keep trying.

spyder774 wrote:
To get her to wash or brush her teeth she has to be TOLD to do it every time, and checked up on afterwards to make sure she has. Any small improvement we do see is very short lived and as soon as the reminders and checks stop then she reverts to not bothering. Like the OP said, it does seem to be a matter of not wanting to do it rather than genuinely forgetting.


Very true.


Thanks for the great advice. How much of the hygiene issue is sensory and how much of it is just that it seems to be too much work, I wonder? Would love to hear from the rest of you.


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17 Apr 2012, 3:36 pm

Since it is not important to your child, is there a way to make it important? It seems she is compliant with requests/reminders/monitoring and not really arguing defiant? Is that right. You want her to do it on her own?

Maybe she can earn something related to a special interest (time, a 15 minute discussion, a new item) for doing what she needs to related to hygiene.

For most kids this age, the reward is peer acceptance. So another reward may be necessary.