Please do not make your kids sit down or shut up.

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I had left that one alone, but now that you mention it ...

I think certain drugs are perceived as a lifeline, an easy out. But a recent study suggested that placebos work as well as anti-depressants, and other studies have shown adverse side effects to children from anti-depressants. If a child really needs medication, fine, but no parent should just give it to their child because the child has been convinced by some peer that it is the greatest thing on earth. Unfortunately, children receive a lot of missinformation, and blame the parents for "not understanding," when the parent is actually sorting out the accurate information in a very responsible way. DEFINITELY this is the kind of thing that a child will need to try to discuss with his or her parents very openly and honestly, and hopefully the parents are the sort to be receptive to the child's input. But, remember, the law gives the final decision to the parents for good reason. While some parents abuse that, or don't do proper honor to the responsibility the law gives them, most try very very hard to do their best by their children.

Ana, I enjoy hearing things from your side, and am trying to read them as just that: the view from your side. That doesn't mean I always agree with it, but it is valuable to hear and for me to digest regardless. When my own children become teenagers, the world history of teenagers indicates that they are likely to clam up, and decide to never share with me anything of importance to them, so any window into their thinking I can store up now is bound to end up helpful.

thank you for your point of view. i see some very valid points in it but feel ike i need to refute a few.
Some young kids will go along with strangers, especially if there is some sort of bribery involved, like candy withthe promise of more or toys or other treats etc. young children have not learned all of the dangers and hazards out there so yes they must stay close.
as they get older there is a greater discernment in most children but many have been abducted or wandered off, and how many people may percieve a no i don't want to go as a mere tantrum in a child rather thatn an abduction???
Some poeple have no choice but to bring their kids shopping with them not always the option of leaving them and who can pay for a babysitter while they grocery shop? it is easier to shop without the kids most often but sometimes it is necessary.
i would also argue that sometimes people just need to sit down and shut up even if it is difficult how are you supposed to learn things if you are not quiet enough to listen?
sometimes it is just not safe to be up and moving, like in a boat.
even in an aspie society you would still need to listen to others, it is a matter of respect.