Kicked out of daycare

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Yeah, time to comiserate here. Last week, I was actually trying to explain to him why it was important to try to obey the teacher (and his parents) and do what we say, and he said "I'm tryin', mommy". I'm not mad at him at all. And he really was trying. He was trying to fit in, to play with the other kids, to get potty-trained. I just wish the providers were more patient. He's the sweetest little boy, and he can't help it if he's not easy to teach.

On a side note, the teacher just sent me an email with links to her Christian blog saying God had sent me to her so she could introduce God into my life - and to bring me and my ex-husband closer - her blog implies that divorce is a sin!! !! !

So maybe her not being able to handle him is a blessing in disguise, but it sure sets a dangerous precedent.

It's a wait-list thing. They work through the school year and don't work in the summer, so they're just now getting to all the evals they amassed right before summer, I'm sure. I called them in June. They are already getting sick of hearing from me.

I'm a Christian but I'm with you, I take issue with the ego involved in believing it is your mission to introduce a specific someone to God. I do believe that God places people into my life for a reason, but the question always is, who is supposed to teach what to who? You have to consider that from a very humble place, and look first to what you might be able to learn.

Someone who believes they hold answers isn't a very good person to provide what our kids need. Our kids will take everything we think we know and turn that upside down. Someone who isn't open to that will never work well with them.

Hopefully this will resolve soon so you can move forward. Patience. Hope. And keep investigating your options.

I have no issues whatsoever with Christianity. And I understand that I am a prime target for soul-saving, as at 35, I am still working out the kinks in my belief system. But this is taking issue with a choice that I have already made, and implying it was an offense to God, and then implying that despite what other plans I (or God) might have in mind, I should atone and repair it immediately by following a certain course of action (incidentally, that would be the same course of action she followed).

She may have been sent into my life to call the local school system (she did yesterday) and ask them what it would take to get him an evaluation. They jumped him ahead on the list, and he is scheduled for a screening, October 29th. It feels like a gift from The Universe, anyway.

The screening determines if they will do a formal evaluation. If the evaluation indicates, they will refer him to a psychologist (for a DX?).

I asked them what happens if they don't feel he requires an evaluation, if the school system would take a second opinion into account and allow him into their program anyway...they said "our specialists are very, very good at what they do". So, I guess that's a no.

Nothing to say, really. I just wanted you to know I am thinking about you and hope things get better. I'm glad to hear you have your husband to fall back on. We lived very poor when the kids were small, just so I could stay home. It is hard to do, but worth it.

Personally I think this is WAY overstepping her bounds as a teacher..this is just interference in your personal life plain and simple and your religious beliefs have nothing to do with her as far as I can see.

However, good that you have an evaluation coming up for your son

If your worried about socialization enroll him in some activities. He can join a bowling league (YES at 3, usually Saturday mornings.) Most libaries have toddler time, McDonalds play areas and the park. Just some ideas, I wish you the best.

According to his dad, he's taken up an interet in baseball, and can recognize a fastball when it's thrown. I think the local YMCA offers peewee baseball for preschoolers.

It might be worthwhile to get him into sports. Maybe he will be able to really apply it!

If you have no break in insurance coverage, companies usually have to cover preexisting conditions. You need a certificate of coverage from previous insurance company. We have plenty preexisting conditions in our family and have change insurance co. about 6 times in six years. Just recently 2 days ago. The plan stated that preexisting conditions are not covered for one year but in small print it said that we may be able to get credit for preexisting conditions. I called them and they said as long as there has been no break in coverage, they will cover preexisting conditions. The whole may word is one that initially stressed me out.

Then I looked up state law in Idaho, and under the insurance commission it says that if you have not had a break in insurance for 90 days then the company is required by law to insure you.

If you are seeking to get covered under a private plan not through a company policy, that may be a different story.

This is an area that people are naturally very confused about. It does stink, though

If you seek a private evaluation because the school district refused or didn't feel like testing was needed, the school district is still required to consider that evaluation. Don't let them tell you otherwise. If they don't, call the number on the procedural safeguards and get a mediator or go through due process. The more you know your rights, the more the school district will consider the evaluation.

I'm so glad they moved him to the front of the waitlist. If they tell that he doesn't need a full evaluation, I believe they are required to pay for a private evaluation. I know that's the case when you don't agree with the results of the full evaluation.

They need to understand that he has been removed from daycare. My son's issues at preschool was used a basis for getting him an evaluation.

However, make sure that you specifically request an autism evaluation. That might not be part of an evaluation. It wasn't for my son until I harrassed them for 2 years. They kept dodging that one. I guess, autism services are expensive they try to fit kids in cheaper placements???

My son used to grab at other kids clothing, shove them, poke them, etc. He was clearly interested in playing with them (yeah!) but simply had no clue how to go about it.

Thanks for all the responses, guys.
They mean the world to me.

It is impossible to believe right now, but someday peeing on the preschool teacher will be funny. Maybe she had it coming.
My son is in 7th grade now, and had struggles, although I think we didn't have to deal with quite as much as you seem to be. Once he got into school, we sought out one or two people (secretaries, monitors, administrators, teachers) who seemed to 'get it.' (You'd be surprised to know how many of the older gals raised kids with disabilities...) and I'd have a real heart to heart with them, and we always managed to have a guardian angel around that way. They would send my son out to see the adult for a few minutes to 'reboot,' and it was very helpful.
Don't assume it will be a teacher! There are many fine people working at the schools.

IT WILL GET BETTER.