My Teen Is Desperate for A Girlfriend

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the last rule

Honestly, these silly shirts are more disrespectful of the daughter, if anything, because they treat her in an old-fashioned property type way as opposed to a person with agency. You notice they don't make these shirts about sons.

Of course the dad of the daughter is not interested in helping you get sex. That is your concern, not his. My issue would be it is up to the daughter (assuming age of consent laws == and that is a whole other tangent as to what those should be) don't apply.

Whether your parents were interfering in your dating as a young person is a legitimate issue, of course, and I could see why a parent would think her child who has a developmental delay may not be ready to date on time. It depends on the kid. I dated on the early side, but I am old and was undiagnosed.

My parents would have been more cautious if I has a diagnosis, regardless of whether it was appropriate or not. I am glad they didn't, as they could be over-protective, depending. They really were not worried about me in this regard b.c they respected me enough not to be, but then again, it was a different time and you didn't hear so much about date-rape and other things, that probably would have made them worry more.

Anyway, getting back to the OP, as others have stated, the OP wants her son to date, and none of these other things do seem to apply to the OP's post.

Edited for syntax as per usual

Parents have every right to treat their children that way, sexist or not. If the latter don't like it, they'd better move out and not ask anything from their parents ever again.



I don't think anyone's ever disputed that. The point is the norm seems to be to make sure noöne has sex with her (with emphasis on not making her the subject of the clause), and to punish severely those who do. I think there's a powerful biological motivation behind this phenomenon, so I don't expect it ever to go away.



It will only be up to the daughter if and when she's a completely independent adult, who doesn't need anyone's permission anymore---not a day, not a second earlier than that. Up to that point, her parents are entitled to decide everything about her. And, of course, the traditional solution was for her to get married and depend entirely on her husband, so she never became independent after all.



In particular, your parents don't have to let you date at all, and much less pay the expenses due to your dating. They don't need a reason not to, so they can deny you those privileges even if you're an otherwise normal teenager, but, of course, considering you more immature than other kids your age helps them make that decision.



So you were lucky. Teenage aspies won't get away with that anymore.



There's no sign the OP is here anymore, so her particular views on the topic she started hardly matter at this point. Besides, her son is a young adult now.

Spiderpig, I can't tell to what extent you are serious or not.

I am a parent, and I do not think parents should have 100% control of their kids. They are not our property.

They should get more responsibilities as they show maturity for them.

There are adults that live at home for financial reasons and I don't think most parents attempt to take control of (or really want to know about) their sex lives. That is really creepy, actually.

As far as dating for minor children, it depends on the parents' values, perception of the maturity of the kid, etc. Plenty of parents are lax in this regard, many are not. Some subsidize their kids dating, and other expenses, some don't.

Your perceptions all seem to align with parents as jail keepers. On the one hand you seem to be complaining about it as though it were ubiquitous; and on the other hand you seem to advocate for it (or are using sarcasm--I cannot tell)

I brought up the OP b/c that post was the exact opposite of what appears to be one of your premises: that parents don't want their kids to date.

Spiderpig, stop being so bitter.