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17 May 2007, 3:03 pm

EvilTeach wrote:
Have your own, adopt.... it make no difference.

You will learn to be a parent, not the worse one, not the best one.

If you turn your aspy powers toward it, you will be successful.


I agree! My aspie powers have me do things that most NT's don't dream of doing with their kids! All to their benifit!

As for life being a crap shoot, well, I don't know, after this day I know that Crap is definately part of being a parent... :)



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20 May 2007, 10:41 am

EvilTeach wrote:
Parents are made, not born.

Speaking as a parent with 1 NT, 1 ASPY, each child is different in different ways, and as a parent we deal with issues differently.

As the parent moulds the children, the children mould the parents. It's a two way street, and you stick with the things that work, and change the things that don't work.

You tend to get better at it over time.

Life is a crap shoot, and children are one of the things that make life worth living.

I am fortunate to have a loving wife and family,
and I thank God every day.


This whole thing is worth reading again and you are so right. I love to gamble and my family is the best bet i ever won.


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20 May 2007, 10:46 am

pbcoll wrote:
EvilTeach wrote:

I think if I had kids, I would say the same thing.
Good reason not to get a diagnosis - what chances would I have of adopting then?


I did got one Aspie and one NT[ though as we get to know her better every day she is showing som strong AS tendencies]


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23 May 2007, 7:06 am

I am a female Aspie and I may never know if my dad has AS but given what I now know of the condition and him as well as what others including my diagnosing psych have told me I strongly suspect that is the case. Also my grandfather (dad's father) was by all accounts very Aspie as well. I also have a cousin with AS and two other relatives on dads side. Therefore if I were to have children I think the chances would be high but I know what not to do in bringing up an Aspie "SMILES".