17 year old son with ASD who identifies as a Nazi

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A seventeen year old threatened to kick a three year old in the face.

You need to make sure that doesn't happen

Mandated Reporter Law

Can you keep an eye on the three year old constantly?

If not, how about getting a lock on the three year olds room





You could make going to school a condition of living at home

I know someone who had a stroke on their brain when they were born. I'm not sure what causes that to happen but more then likely it could have had to do with lack of oxygen to the brain or something.

Dump him in a group home

If your son kicks your daughter (which he has threatened), you could be held criminally responsible

Take proactive action

I suspect the OP deopped this forum awhile ago since she did not get the response she was looking for.

I wish members would be more careful challenging new posters so that this doesn't happen. It is better for the kids if the parents stay and get the chance to slowly learn where even the most negative posters are coming from.

CHSPE, yes, that was the name I couldn't think of. For someone like my daughter it serves the same purpose as a GED since officially both the CHSPE and GED are given the same weight as a high school diploma. To say they aren't the same may be true, but to a parent it's splitting hairs and its one heck of a lot easier to say "GED." Thankfully my child had a full transcript of completed core work (3 years of English including honors/AP work, math through AP calculus, 3 years social science/history work including one AP, etc) and 4 comfortably passed AP tests before taking the CHSPE and, having passed, ultimately deciding to leave school. All she is missing is government and econ, and she is slowly working through some on-line courses for those. It is important to us, her parents, that she not have those gaps in her education.

I understand that you don't want to scare off new members but she was changing her story after and calling people out when she didnt the response she was expecting. I expect people to be adults and be able to understand what people are saying. None of us was saying anything bad, if anything people gave her some decent advice.
She just cant get a job with a military branch or a union that requires a GED, but she can go to community and transfer to a four year degree.
Not everyone is set out for traditional high school and I am glad there are options. Just like to make sure poeple are aware of the limitations of those options, thats all.

I asked her what signs led her to believe her son was AS. The question was ignored, and it is was an important one in my view, particularly as this is a forum that is centrally focused on AS.

If people post with the idea of the answer they want to their question, then they have the answer they want, and perhaps want agreement with it only, not new input from people with various different perspectives.

Whether that was the case here I don't know, though it seems a strong possibility.

And we do have to be careful with these "Nazi" threads as they are a favourite one for trolls, though I am not saying the OP is one.

[this is my advice but consulting a professional will be much better than me, im sure]

regardless of whether he's got aspergers i think being in his room alone all the time is pretty unhealthy. he's probably roaming the internet a lot, being influenced by things he reads and getting more hooked up on it. Have you heard of the hikikomori trend in Japan? i am not suggesting your son is a hikikomori but he displays a lot of similarities. He can rely on you to provide his every need and therefore he doesnt feel he needs to do anything. that's human nature. when im home and my mother is making me dinner and cleaning i quickly become lazy if she doesnt tell me off or encourages me to do stuff. I think he needs to feel that there is something for him outside other than the energy drink. Perhaps that way he'll be more relaxed about "owning" and being dominant in the house. Is he doing exercise? Is he eating healthy? These are also important as they affect his brain. if he's addicted to online stuff, consider maybe reducing his computer time as punishment or unless he does x,y,z? your generous authority will help him in the long run i think. my mother was strict with me but also understanding when needed.

Tell Kid Nazi that if he continues down the same path, he'll end up in prison and then he'll have to poop in front of his cellmate.

Well, we have the official diagnosis of ASD along with ADHD, anxiety disorder and depressive disorder. He did 3 days of testing at the Cleveland Clinic...which he was pretty angry about..had to threaten him with the police to get him to go. He's turned 18 now also. He's getting worse in regards to his sister and I'm not sure what to do...it isn't safe to let him live with her but he has nowhere else to go. I didn't stop parenting him...I did take away the internet and his xbox and it didn't help at all. He just sits in his room...angry. Still doesn't go anywhere...because the issue isn't the video games..it's the anxiety. He is getting help from professionals but it isn't going to be a quick fix by any means. I wasn't diagnosed until quite recently myself..so I didn't know how to help him either. I have a hard time taking care of myself...and I know that I haven't been the best mom. I should've done more while he was young..but I didn't know WHAT to do or HOW to do it. Anyway...I'm sorry for posting on this site bc I've gotten a whole lot of judgement when no one knows the whole situation. Thank you tho to those who had constructive comments and not just "pull the internet"...because obviously it's not that simple. If I didn't care or wasn't trying to get him help...I wouldn't have taken the time to ask you guys for advice.

with diagnosis there's more options,
getting out of the house and getting structure, maybe there's something to explore in these ?

there's much more, a good organisation explains also the financial part of the program
https://pacificquest.org/our-programs/young-adults/
https://www.legacyfarmsvirginia.org/see ... in-america
https://www.allkindsoftherapy.com/treatment/youngadults
https://www.friendshipcircle.org/blog/2 ... ial-needs/

The kid's fascination with Nazism is a symptom, and not the cause, of whatever the problem is.

Explain to him how Hitler was a socialist and a hypocrite for being a complete mook for trying to mess with Russia in the winter. That's how Napoleon lost because Hitler realized that Stalin would kick his @$$ to the curb and punked out because of it.

That aside though, it sounds like an intervention plan should kick in soon.

Perhaps a group home or some sort of structured, therapeutic environment will help him. It sounds like being at home is not working for him and may not be safe for your daughter.

Sometimes environment makes all the difference. For me and some of my friends with autism, home is a difficult place to be because of the lack of structure. It is an easy place to fall into depression and codependency on parents.

Some of my friends with mental illness have gone to group homes temporarily because they couldn’t function well in school and we’re too anxious to leave the house. Being at a group home gave them inpedendence, confidence, and they were able to learn life skills.

Isolation also isn’t good for anyone and may have contributed to his hatred towards people and towards the world, leading to nazi beliefs. Isolation can lead to paranoia and radical beliefs. He really needs to get back into social settings.

Those are just my thoughts, thought not sure how helpful they are. I really hope things get better for you and your family.

I say, put the Nazi in a home where the staff can straighten him out. Don't let him live with the family. I also don't see how anyone who calls their disabled sister a ret*d is not a bad kid.

You do know that just because someone does something that's "bad", doesn't mean they're just overall a bad person, right? You don't know him, you don't know the reasons behind how he feels or what he's been through...if he were a "bad kid" he wouldn't sit with his other sister as she's having a meltdown and comfort her. The behavior is unacceptable and hurtful..but he's not a bad kid. Anyways, if that makes him a bad person...I'm a horrible person for the things that I've done and said in my lifetime...as are most of us.