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DW_a_mom
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18 Feb 2014, 3:43 pm

Keep a close eye on what is going on. Don't assume that a day or two of no problems means that the right solution has been found. I know, I've just advocated helicopter parenting, but when you are raising an ASD child, it is often necessary. So much can be prevented and dealt with more timely by having a sharp eye. I know you already know that, just firming it up so you don't give into the natural temptations that come from being an overextended parent ;)

And I wish I knew the answers to your new questions, but of course I don't. Time should clear things up a bit.


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18 Feb 2014, 3:50 pm

I guess this thread got me wondering why I have heard no concerns from my own kids school and therapists. so I emailed them all, so far one of the teachers answered back, that my son was doing well and has even made a couple new friends. no easy task seeing as he is can easily get overly obsessive with someone new or fun to him. long ways from what foot the school and I and his therapists all started off on. made them work together, seems the schools are a bit territorial and want that aid out of their class rooms, so they started to learn from the therapists and have been trying to adapt.

Well anyways, I just requested that she ask if the other parents would be willing to foster the children's own social growth by empower them to learn from their peers and their own mistakes at their own pace, learn to foster their own relationships, let them exchange phone numbers and make contact. little things add up, but no mater the logic we are still creatures made of our own experiences, let that be their teacher.. the more experiences had, the more tools for life learned.



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18 Feb 2014, 11:46 pm

DW_a_mom wrote:
Keep a close eye on what is going on. Don't assume that a day or two of no problems means that the right solution has been found. I know, I've just advocated helicopter parenting, but when you are raising an ASD child, it is often necessary. So much can be prevented and dealt with more timely by having a sharp eye. I know you already know that, just firming it up so you don't give into the natural temptations that come from being an overextended parent ;)

And I wish I knew the answers to your new questions, but of course I don't. Time should clear things up a bit.


Thanks DW...I've arranged a parent teacher meeting one on one with the teacher in order we improve communication and make sure we are on the same page in terms of my daughter's individualized plan...



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18 Feb 2014, 11:55 pm

ASDMommyASDKid wrote:
cyberdad wrote:
Made one friend with a parent whom thought she got to know us before trying to convince me the best thing for my daughter was a special school to improve her social skills/communication. So it came as a surprise when she found out my daughter was acing the other students in the classwork including her son. This is not atypical. Despite the superficial nature of my fellow parents I would like to persist with the school because of the integration support. This new teacher is, however, not exactly making a massive effort to accommodate my daughter's behavior.


Some parents and teachers are not happy when our kids are mainstreamed, especially if there is a disruption to class (I do get not liking the disruptions esp. once high stakes testing figures in.)


Here in Australia with the closure of expensive special schools/institutions - government schools have been made to develop an inclusive ethos and social integration policy for any child with special needs. Teachers in mainstream schools find it harder than private colleges/schools to maintain attention to the brightest students when they often have to pay a good portion of their time to disruptive students so I can (despite my negative experiences) understand their frustration.



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20 Feb 2014, 12:33 am

Thanks folks for taking time to contribute, it's much appreciated :)