He's 10 going on 15

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The hormones are raging and my sweet natured 10 year old son has an attitude the size of texas. He has suddenly decided that he hates his clothes (he used to go for comfort and didn't care what he wore) but now he wants to dress "like a teenager" and "look cool." Okay, no problem. So we've been chatting about what styles he likes. What his definition of cool is and how he feels about his body.

His main issue is that he says he's 10, that his brain feels older, but he looks like a little kid and that it's really stressing him out. Quite insightful. He's due for some new clothes anyway so we're going to go shopping over the next two weeks and put together a cooler wardrobe.

He's also decided his room isn't grown up enough and that needs to change as well. I was very excited about this because he's right I've been wanting to change it for the past year but he wasn't ready and I'm of the mind that its his space, he can keep it how he likes it and when he's ready for something different, we'll talk about it. So we've got that plan on the go as well.

But the attitude? Oh my word, today I wanted to stick a fork in my eye. He's so bloody rude sometimes and today he actually gave me the hand! As in "nuh uh....you did not just say that" I thought I was going to either bust out laughing or pull the "I'm your mother and you don't speak to me that way" line.

Thankfully, given that he's my little mini me, it's easy for me to appeal to his logical side. "DS, if you speak to people in a rude voice, they're going to think you're a rude person. These sorts of thoughts need to stay inside your head until we're home and we can talk about it in private." That makes perfect sense to him.

Is there anyone else with a kid on the verge of the teenage years and coping a big attitude? In some ways, I delight in it a little bit because it's such a regular part of growing up. It's not peer pressure for him to look/act cool because he's homeschooled. So this is something that is coming from within. I love to see him test boundaries and find his own indentity. But I could really do without the sassy side. Holy smokes. We're way too much alike. That's probably why it drives me batty.

No advise here, but lately my 4 y/o has started to tell me to "shut up" when he doesn't want to hear what I'm saying.

Gee, I would LOVE to do that to MY mother, but she would cry, yell, try to run guilt trips, etc..... BTW I am over 40, and STILL feel that way. If you knew HALF of the truth, you would wonder why I don't do far worse.

I think we have the same mother.

My mother is infamous for her guilt trips and playing the martyr. I love her a lot but she drives me nuts.

BTW, celtic, you sound like an awsome mom. I wish my mother had been even half as understanding.

Thanks Xinae. Being an Aspie myself, it makes it easier to relate. He's like the perfect mix of myself and my sister so most times it's easy for me to figure out what's going on in his head. But right after a huge dose of attitude today, I called my mother to apologize for the years 11-15.

You want an EXAMPLE of what I was talking about?!?!? And this happened only MINUTES ago! One reason I moved to the other side of the CONTINENT was to get away from her because she drives me nuts and never gives a moment peace, She called me at least 6 times today. You see, she decided to move NEAR me! She burned EVERY bridge, and wants to burn one more, which would leave her HOMELESS! GUESS where she wants to live! YEP! With her middle aged single SON in a traditional family community. My social skills may be poor, but I understand what would happen if she did that. I am getting closer and closer to say "GO TO HELL!! !! !!"! I RARELY speak that way! But this is really pushing me. And she STILL tries to lay a guilt trip.

FORGET the idea of a Judeo Christian "God". It does NOT exist! Maybe it is some kid that TOYS with people like me. Whatever power that is is adversarial to me! In Hebrew, that would be SATAN!

So I guess I have to figure that I am an ATHEIST in that sense, What am I to do? I told her point blank, in CLEAR terms, that if she were to live with me it would destroy my life, destroy any hope I have for a normal life, and drive me NUTS.