Is this similar to your AS child?

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We haven't had my sisters tested for anything but today the 8year old IMO screamed Aspie to me. Instead of being interested in getting new clothes she was busy playing with toys she also whines alot which at first you think well she's an 8 year old little girl but IMO it's been a behavior that's gone on forever! I told mom I behaved like that (interested in other stuff OUTSIDE of buying clothes but she said she wants the 8yr. old to be able to take care of herself etc.) I'll mention getting her tested again. When it comes to friends she went to a new school for 6months and didn't really meet anyone new (She stayed in Contact with a friend from her old school which she is returning to tomorrow) (The 10 yr. old flourished had 2 friends and one she'd spend the night at and they'd stay here etc.) So that was just my observation of today that screamed Aspie to me so I was curious how is your child do these behavior sound familiar? I'm no expert mind you but IMO overall it'd be great if my mom had an answer to her behavior and I could always point her to the WP forums AS board. LOL!

Sensory issues? Eye contact? Limited or wrong facial expressions and other gestures? Routine-oriented, doesn't like change? How does she play with toys, lining them up or imaginary play? Does she obsess? Ask the same questions over and over? Poor motor skills?

You provided almost 0 information. Elaborate or expect not to get an answer.

We think my 9 year old daughter is NT and she stopped having any interest in clothes when she was about 8. She finds shopping boring, she thinks the current fashions are obnoxious, and she honestly doesn't care if her clothes aren't new and pretty because "people shouldn't be that superficial - real friends won't care what I look like." It did get me wondering if we'd called it wrong, but plenty of NT's aren't into that stuff, either. Plus she's shy, which also makes me wonder about possible AS, but then again it all seems to be a lot less about social confusion on her part than a choice not to play along. It's just different from how things went with my son at that age, and the whole boy v. girl thing complicates it, but ... I don't think what you've posted is a tell tale sign.

I'm not sure how i can elaborate. I'm sorry if I offened anyone. I know every Aspie is different. The traits that came to mind for me that I can think of is immature interest (she was interested in playing with toys NOT looking for clothes) and the social friend issue (During 6 months she really didn't make any friends) She also whines alot which I've considered at times to be Meltdown issues but those are just my observations. I'm not sure of sensory issues or anything of that nature. Maybe we can get her tested for something and I'll let WP know what develops but it's interesting looking at her behavior. She obviously has problems. We'll see how things develop.

No worries. I'm used to you looking at your sisters one trait at a time; just be aware that most people who post here may not be aware of your history with questions. The other poster had a really good point, however, about looking at sensory issues, etc., which are better indicators for AS than some of the behaviors you've been looking at.

I don't think of whinning as meltdowns. Whinning is a way of complaining, and can be a way to manipulate. My AS son is much more "in your face" than that about things that upset him, and meltdowns show clearly that he is no longer in control of himself. Whines can be part of the lead up to meltdowns, I suppose, although with my AS son that isn't the normal pattern.

Last edited by DW_a_mom on 28 Jan 2010, 12:34 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Thank You DW mom whatever the case AS or something else she does have her issues. Hopefully whatever her problem is when/if she gets checked or whatever hopefully that person can help her with her issues. Thanks again. (I guess I shouldn't look at them one thing at a time I guess.) LOL!

I'd rather play with toys than go clothes shopping and I'm 37.

I don't think prefering toys to new clothes at 8 is a trait of anything in the autism spectrum.

I'd rather get my eyes burned twice than go clothes shopping.

I'd rather play with the cloths and wear the toys and I'm 48!

I wouldn't worry. There are a great many people with a few autistic traits; a great many more than there are actual autistic people. If autistics are 1%, people who are in the typical range but have some autistic traits are probably 10% or even more.